Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group
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SO....the son is doing okay..BUT...as you know he ditched the ex-gf, the slimy little thing that HE did 4 months jail time for HER heroin, she is the MOST disgusting human being that I have EVER met, NEVER liked her, she had NO respect IN my home, she is the one person I can say I actually HATE and I KNOW how strong that word is....I SWORE that if I EVER had to see her again i would tear her heart out and feed it to her.
WELL, I'm a manager of a huge store, today we are in the midst of a blizzard, I go into work, open up the store, get the troups going....and head back to the executive office and low and behold, we have a new trainee, I look and see her face, I stopped DEAD in my tracks, just inches where my fist to her face as she sat there with this smirk on her face that I felt my inner rage start up. I looked at the manager getting ready to start her training, she saw the look on my face and I looked at her and said 'you F*&(ing hired HER?'....went down the hall, called out the other managers name and slammed the door, tossed my phone to the wall and she came in and asked what was going on....she knows about my son's issues, told her WHO that grimy slimy thing was and she was shocked, she went to get the GM, who called me to see what was going on, I told them it is either her or me....he has to go up the chain to find out what to do....so I called the Hubby, he told me to get my stuff and come home.....he KNEW If I didn't he would get a call from the local PD.....so I told my boss, 'sorry to do this to you today, but I'm going home." took my stuff and left.
What BOTHERS me is she KNOWS I work there, she KNEW, yet she still went in for an interview and got hired and when she saw me smiled as if to say 'screw you bitch'....
So, again she came into my 'house' and screwed me again...
Any thoughts?
K
WELL, I'm a manager of a huge store, today we are in the midst of a blizzard, I go into work, open up the store, get the troups going....and head back to the executive office and low and behold, we have a new trainee, I look and see her face, I stopped DEAD in my tracks, just inches where my fist to her face as she sat there with this smirk on her face that I felt my inner rage start up. I looked at the manager getting ready to start her training, she saw the look on my face and I looked at her and said 'you F*&(ing hired HER?'....went down the hall, called out the other managers name and slammed the door, tossed my phone to the wall and she came in and asked what was going on....she knows about my son's issues, told her WHO that grimy slimy thing was and she was shocked, she went to get the GM, who called me to see what was going on, I told them it is either her or me....he has to go up the chain to find out what to do....so I called the Hubby, he told me to get my stuff and come home.....he KNEW If I didn't he would get a call from the local PD.....so I told my boss, 'sorry to do this to you today, but I'm going home." took my stuff and left.
What BOTHERS me is she KNOWS I work there, she KNEW, yet she still went in for an interview and got hired and when she saw me smiled as if to say 'screw you bitch'....
So, again she came into my 'house' and screwed me again...
Any thoughts?
K
Love a saying my HR manager told me....when in total doubt or disbelief, run silent.....I will hear that very often in my brain now.
So I was told that while I was melting down, this little wench looked at the admin and said in a very mousy voice (that is her MO, that little mousy voice that demands pity) 'did I do something wrong? Am I going to get fired?'......I had to laugh at that.
So, I need to just eat crow and work with this thing. Although it will be limited hours, I just don't get it, if your working at the local donut shop, making more money on tips, and there are ALWAYS hours at those places, why come here for part time work, hours that you pick yourself? She might work 8 hours if that....hmmm....
I will watch my back, I will be business polite, and this will be the last time that I let it weigh on me....
What I DID like through it all is that HR said "we like you, we hope you like us to and we can see a great future here with us and going places, but this can't happen again'.....
So, I now have my big girl panties pulled ALL The way up! And I will move forward.
And no, I'm not telling the kid....he doesn't need to know. No need to poke that bear, this bear has been poked enough for both of us LOL....
Good luck and hugs,
Ross
The BIG bonus is how the other managers are behind me, the head of security is behind me, we've all talked and everyone is aware that needs to be. THAT made me feel much better, her manager, who was on vaca when she was hired by this other manager, whom I don't like as she is a self centered person and I STILL feel she had a hand in it, HE even said "why was she hired? I didn't have an empty slot for someone new? And SHE hired her? I NEVER would have hired her, not just because of the situation, even if I didn't know, I still wouldn't have. And you just sit tight, do the right thing and we will figure this all out. I just do NOT understand after seeing you explode, that she would even COME BACK here, she has ALOT of balls, which tells me too that something is totally up, I've got your back on this and for the LOVE of GOD, keep it in....We NEED you here!'....THAT was the feel good moment.
Still haven't told my son yet. Just can't bring myself to let him know, he would go off the deep end, and he is just pulling it together, so I don't think he needs to be privy to this.
YUPPER, I got some BIG GIRL PANTIES on and she will NOT get control of me at ALL! Matter of fact, I'm gonna reverse the game on her. Karma NEVER let's me down, EVER, so I will do my job, wait and watch as Karma comes back around to BITE HER IN THE BUTT!
Hoping your all doing well out there....I wish I had a huge eraser and could erase everyones pain and all the drugs in the world.....
But i can send you all hugs and thank you once again for being there!
I wish everyone a great day!
K
So as they are leaving, I throw out a 'have a good day' and the older of the boys, a TRUE trouble maker who is dressed like a gang member, says in a totally disrepectful moking of what I said 'OH, you TOO lady, have a good day(in a high moking tone)'.....
I went into the office manager and let her know..
I got really creeped out by this, the young girl is evidentally the ex-GF's sister, she too is an addict....
What the hell do you do when you can't keep people like this away from you?
I got copies of the FB pages from the day she was posting about my 'outburst', and someone saying how immature I was, etc...so what her AUNT did yesterday, was that ANY more mature? STALKING? Thinking she is soooo smart?
I don't know....this just totally sucks, I have done NOTHING to them, I did not call them, I do not have ANY communications with them.....the AUNT is the one calling me at the time and swearing and yelling....I hung up and never had another conversation with the woman.
It's like back in high school and she is the bully. I have not been in touch with the ex-gf since that day at the court house when she was there when our son got taken into custody and I took the car keys, wallet and phone, NEVER had another conversation after that.
WTH? WILL THIS EVER END?
We get moles on here, and other sites, and especially with the dog rescues that I work with. They go crazy on us and make up lies, try to cause trouble...etc.
It is like a giant chess board out there.
If they aunt hadn't come in I would say that maybe this new younger girl found out that the GF got a fair chance and she wanted that too...but since the aunt came in, who knows?
Does your company have a policy about not hiring family members?? like husband and wife, or sisters? some companies do....
I think, btw, you handled it very well. Breathe, it is a test...you are passing.