oh god.. i am so sorry...

thats what they do.. addicts. they lie/steal and don't care who they steamroll in the process. its all about the drug!!!!!!!!

i am only imagine the devastation you must be feeling with him being sober for so long and then relapsing. its my worst fear and i think the reason i broke up with my bf last week. he is 8 months clean but the notion that they can relapse on the drop of a dime.

my only advise would be to not waste your time/energy with dealing with specifics of his actions... just get your truck and call it a day. trying to make sense of any of it is just a waste of breath when you are dealing with a drugged out brain.

set boundries for yourself and worry about your own needs. save yourself. (maybe i am just jaded.. but living a life with an addict by choice isn't the life that anyone would want, i would imagine)

hugs to you. hang in there. the sun will rise tomorrow and hopfully you can stabalize and set some boundries.

HUGS

Great advice! Yes, they are all into drama, these addicts, and we will be moresane to not add to it. Good luck! Act instead of reacting.....Do whatever you'd be doing and not focusing on them. It gets easier!

thanks for the advice...that's what I'm going to do...

i stopped calling him at 1 am...and went to sleep...well tried to go to sleep...me and my little kitty just caught cat naps here and there all night long...anyway...

i'm up getting ready for church like i've done every sunday this year...but it hurts...it hurts so much...

and i'm embarrassed cause i'm going to have to walk to church...and i didn't get a chance to print out my notes on todays lesson...

and my stomach is upset...it's doing flippity flops...and it hurts...

i just don't know...

-DR-

Take some very deep breaths... stay away from caffine and sugar today. You'll want all those comfort foods - but stay away from them.
Eat healthy. Try not to worry about him. Turn it over to God. Remember his path and his journey are his. You must take care of yourself. We are all here for you. Please keep us posted.
Hugs....
Stay Strong

I am sorry your going through this after so long. It seems just when you think everything is ok BAM you get slammed.
I hope you get your truck back and start thinking about you!

All the comments and posts you have gotten are right. If I were in your position, there is one additional thing I would do, call the police and report your vehicle stolen. I know this is probably a hard call to make, but it is your only mode of transportation. When addicts are going out to cop their drugs, most of the dealers are located in the worst parts of town - I live 50 miles from the city of Chicago, and when my son was using, and couldn't get his dope from the local dealers, he thought nothing of driving 50 miles, going to the projects to get his dope. If this is a similiar case senerio with your addict, he could very well be so high, and not in the car, possibly getting higher with other addicts, and your vehicle could be stolen or striped down - I/m not saying this to try and scare and upset you more, but to keep you for lossing your vehicle. I also know from my son's gf who's brother is an addict, when he was busy getting high, with other addicts, a couple of the addict's gf's, stole his car and were joy riding all over the place, and thank god, got caught and arrested. Like everyone else here has said, try and stay calm, keep your wits about you, and act rather than react, as addicts do love the hoopla, and drama.

Stay strong, like JennyLyn said the sun will rise tomorrow

believe me ...i've been considering doing that for a while now...but it is a very hard call to make...i'm scared to death...of what has happened to my truck...or...of what will happen to him...this is so very hard...about the only thing i know right now is that i don't deserve all of this...

depressed, sometimes the kindest thing we can do is help them hit bottom faster. If that means he gets picked up and thrown in jail and forced to get clean (pay the consequences for his actions) so be it.
You are not being mean, It's called "High Tolerance for inappropriate behavior." he is being irresponsible and taking advantage of you. like Bcollie said. They love the drama and the hoopla it feeds their ego.... the only thing they understand is living the consequences.
Good Luck.

i'm looking for his sister's number...i wanna call her before i do anything...but does anyone know if you report a vehicle stolen online? i know it's a stupid question...but..this is embarrassing...

-DR-

I don't know about online, but you can just call it in by phone and they'll start looking for the vehicle right away. Police may come to your house to take a report as well. They did in my case.. My son had taken my husband's truck "to go to a meeting" and disappeared for two days.

About crack addicts and vehicles: If they have no money they'll happily hand over their car to the dealer to make his runs in exchange for a rock. Or they'll have their car outright stolen from them.

well i know at last night he didn't have too much money...may $20-$30...

and i know i haven't heard from him since last night...at all...we have a brand new sound system at home and a big screen tv...that are his outright...so i was waiting for him to come get those...that's what he usually does...

but i haven't heard a peep from him...so i'm getting more and more worried...

about my truck...is that wrong? I love him and all but right now my main concern is MY truck...it's mine...it's the only thing of value that i have...

-DR-

Depressed, it sounds like you know what is happening here....and he took your truck without your permission to do it in. However you look at it, that is theft, an actual criminal violation against you. It might help to think of it this way: if he were a virtual stranger to you, what would be your response? Truth is, when they're using they ARE strangers to us.

No your not wrong i'd be worried about my car also. I have the same feeling about my SUV its mine i make the payments and need it get around for work. I hope your truck is okay. Sorry your going thru this and with him being sober for over a year.

I know that it's a hard to call to make, but you have to call the police. yes a cop will come to your house, take a report. you did not give him permission to use your vehicle. Also there is nothing to be embarrased about, believe me nothing shocks cops on any report they have to respond to, they have seen and heard all. Tiatania is right, if the addict doesn't have money, the dealer will take any and everything they have, and will strip your vehicle down to the bare bones. I would also not let him take the stereo or tv, until you have checked out your vehicle, if there is any damage, he is sol - which is another reason you should report this to the police, you will have begun what is known as a paper trail, good for you, bad for him. Another thing - possession is 9/10th the law. So unless he came produce receipts or some type of proof that the stereo system and tv are actually in fact his - he is once again, sol. You need to take care of you.