Just got off a phone call with my Mom and told her we wouldn't be staying with her for our trip home in a few weeks due to a bad relapse. Of course, I feel guilty. She was sobbing and started asking me why my Dad gets a "free pass" even though he's a drunk.

My moms a drug addict - primary narcotics. My dad is an alcoholic. They're both active in their addictions but the relationships I have with each of them are different. My mom raised me away from my Dad for most of my life. As a child, she was my primary parent who always talked bad about my Dad being a drug dealer, a drunk, a wife beater, etc.

Now that I'm an adult, she's now most of those things. My dad calls after some beers and sometimes sad stuff from the past comes up but that's about it. When my mom uses - she goes off the wall. Steals, lies, manipulates, fights, etc. Two totally different scenarios. My mom makes me feel bad, Dad doesn't.

Does anyone else have this going on?