Petite, Thank you for the extra information. I do understand and if you are comfortable with your decision, then so be it. If you are happy and moving on with your life then you deserve that happiness. I know its difficult when we estranged from others. We want it to work out and benefit all people involved, but you can't always have that.

Keep doing well, keep your studies going and love on your hubby. Hopefully the family members will come through later when they start to miss their daughter. May be a good time to set the boundaries then.

PetiteUnique,

Thanks for your words of encouragement.

Donna

I am really glad I found this group. It helps to know others are going through similar situations.
Thanks for all of your suggestions and support.

I am reading a book called" Living with Screwed Up People". It has really helped me.

IDonna, can you elaborate on the book for us. Like what you read was useful so far. I've heard of this book from others but haven't heard HOW it has helped them.

EFF

Yes, I had told others that I do not hate any of my siblings and I wish that my family can come together and just hang out with each other without talking about the darn past. When I say the past I'm talking about the 1970s and 1980s, when everyone were teenagers and was growing into adults, my youngest brother who lives at home with me and mom, was only a baby at the time. In the house we used to live in for 13 yeas, during that time, my youngest brother learned to walk and talk in that house. I am a adult now, living in another state. In no way I don't consider myself better than anyone although I don't do the same things as others. Like attend parties nor drink. (I don't find nothing wrong with that) It's their business, they are adults with children of their own and some have grand children. What they do is not any of my business and I don't care period. I only have one sister who is 11 years older than me, my oldest brother is nine years older than me. Me and my youngest brother is the youngest children but we are satisfied with our lives.

My problem is after mom talk with the other kids on the phone, she get off the phone crying, and upset. I love my mom dearly and wished that my mom was not going through such emotional stress because of these people because at times it seems that she is mad at me and my youngest brother. We try everything we can to make sure mom is happy and comfortable but then she'll have negative thoughts or dreams, where that when she wakes up, she is extremely depressed.

I don't want my siblings to come around if all they are going to do is upset mom and cause her to focus on negative stuff all the time. She is a wonderful person. She loves to laugh, tell jokes, (she's just fun), but my siblings takes that away. Others heard this before, but each day I'm getting more upset that my brother had reminded mom of her sad, disgusting childhood. I sent him a email about how I feel (it was only a sentence and a half) but in his reply back to me, it was a page long. He said that he told mom not to focus on her childhood but I felt he was too late, he opened the darn door and that he said that there is no such thing as post traumatic stress because it's a cop out. People use that to cop out of dealing with their situations, I disagree with his theory.

So yes, I had decide not answer the phone because I don't know what the hell is going on, and life has been a living hell for MY home. There is more anger than happiness. How sad.