Welcome annielou36! It sounds like you have a lot to deal with.empty nest AND caring for aging parents. BOTH are tough to deal with!! Add an unsupportive husband.it just adds to the emotional pain!!! Sigh!! Wish I had answers as to how to deal with all this. My best solution is to keep busy. Seeing women friends is also helpful as they LISTEN and empathize. I wish you all the best!! It is SO HARD to see the babies fly the coop. Empty nests suck!!! I am sorry your husband is not much help. HUGS!

Truthfully, men and women process the empty nest experience differently. My husband was oblivious to the experience. I felt sad that my son left my home to move on and still miss him a lot.

I am very lucky; my husband is kind and romantic, and we talk about everything. Our youngest daughter (31 years old) is getting married next month. I know I will sniffle at the ceremony, but I won't have the empty nest problem because she has had her own place for years, and she has lived out of town for work.

What I do have is an 85 year old mother living with us, so I am pretty busy.

Would it help if those of you who have no communication with hubby, what if you planned a nice trip together; a cruise, a roadtrip, even a weekend in the city, a B&B, etc. Sometimes a nice vacation helps get the feelings back.

If nothing you try works, it may be a good idea to get out of the marriage and make a new life for yourself. It has to be better to be alone sane than live with someone and have a sick relationship. There is a lot of support out there in the world. Also, make sure you develop strong relationships with your friends; plan outings, go to lunch, a movie. Girlfriends are the best!!!

Don't give up living because the man in your life isn't being who you need; give yourself what you need, whatever that is!!!

Don't you think that the men in most cases are glad that the kids are gone? I think mine is because he thinks that I'm all his now, he thinks we can be all romantic, etc. all the time. He just doesn't realize for me that the romantic feelings have been gone for a long time. My H will listen to me -- has to because I cry -- but I don't think he really understands. I feel empty, lonely, wish my son would contact us more, etc. I know that they have to move on but what kills me is that he has moved out and I just feel left behind, tossed to the curb. How can someone live with you, see you every day and then just not act like you aren't there anymore? That is what is hard for me. I think he could go for days, maybe weeks, without contacting us. It is still early but I just have that lost feeling like I don't matter to him at all. My H says that I do but when you don't hear from someone it sure seems like they have forgotten you. I want to be acknowledged as a person but I don't feel that way at all.

I'm divorced now but my husband wouldn't have understood what we are going through either. Try to find other women on here who are going through the same thing. If you want to email me please write to writetopeoplearoundtheworld@gmail.com