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Hey all! I was just thinking it would be a cool idea for us to vent here about people's reactions in public to our ED. Whether it;s a nasty comment about our bodies, a snide remark about what we eat, or well meaning but intrusive advice, we've weathered it all and we deserve a place to vent. So let's do it girls!
here's a few gems I've gotten:
about starvation:
"What concentration camp did you escape from?"
"You really shouldn't eat so much fruit when what you really need is fat."
"You should go as a ghost for Halloween. You already look terrible and gaunt so you wouldn't need a costume."
"How fucked in the head do you have to be to intentionally starve yourself?"
During binge:
"My, my, someone's got the hungry horrors. If you'd eat this wouldn't happen."
"How do you eat like that and not get fat?" (oh, that's easy, I just starve and exercsie it off)
Lemme hear some of yours now!
here's a few gems I've gotten:
about starvation:
"What concentration camp did you escape from?"
"You really shouldn't eat so much fruit when what you really need is fat."
"You should go as a ghost for Halloween. You already look terrible and gaunt so you wouldn't need a costume."
"How fucked in the head do you have to be to intentionally starve yourself?"
During binge:
"My, my, someone's got the hungry horrors. If you'd eat this wouldn't happen."
"How do you eat like that and not get fat?" (oh, that's easy, I just starve and exercsie it off)
Lemme hear some of yours now!
"I never would have guessed!"
"But I see you eat!"
I HATE this one! To an eating disordered person it simply means, "Wow, you've gained back all the weight you worthless unlovable fattie."
" I wish i could have known you when you heavier"
" I dont want to be with a guy who wears smaller jeans than me"
and she wasnt heavy i think she was 5'1 and 110lbs.
those remarks hurt bad.
Also "you look SOO hot!" And my all time favorite, 'It must be nice to eat whatever you want and never gain weight!" GHHHHHHAAA!
Also from mum "just eat this, it will make your mummy happy" and "i can't handle any more illness"
Friends "you don't want to make yourself infertile"
Waiter in restaurant "no rice? No starter? No naan?' and then 'no desert?' NO, NO, NO and stop making a BIG DEAL!
"what have you eaten today?"
"I think you're lying, I don't trust you anymore."
"I don't want to talk to you until you get better."
"Please, you barely have an eating disorder"
"You're not all that thin."
"You have problems!"
"You're dragging me down with your eating disorder."
"THink of the starving children in Africa! You're so selfish! Do you think they would turn down food because they're stupid and want to lose weight?"
"You're doing this for attention"
"I don't think you're as sick as you claim to be...I mean seriously, just look at you!! You look great!" (said when I was severely emaciated)
"Ok, you got all the attention and stuff at first. It's really time to stop now. It's getting really old, Megan."
"This family revolves around you! My life is all about taking you to appointments! You think I like it? - my mom, although I"m not really sure why she said that because IT'S NOT ABOUT HER she lawys has to chime in about how everything makes HER feel!
"one day im gonna end up force feeding you"
"i dont get it. you eat a lot and you NEVER gain weight. it seems you lose it! Whats your secret?"
"just don't come out to eat with us anymore! you can never eat normal food, always salad salad salad! Just take a break from you diet one day what's going to happen?! You're just such a pain in the ass to go out with!" - I went out to eat with my family (which was EXTREMELY hard) and everyone got mad because the first couple places we went to didn't have any food that i could actually eat, so we had to keep looking until we found something i'd eat....and they asked me to come out with them! I didn't want to do it, I challenged myself, and this is what I get? pfft..
I was way underweight and I went to my doctor, and he says "Oh, you're not so bad. I mean, it'd be different if you were 15 pounds lighter, then I might be worried"
"at least i'm not some stupid anorexic girl who can't even eat" - my brother
"you probably think you look good now but everyone i know thinks you look disgusting" my older sister
those are a few of mine - i definitely have more, but i can't think of any right now :)
"All you do is drag everybody down!!"
"You're doing this to manipulate me!!" my mother
"Well, you're not where you should be mentally. Physically I don't know...you look fine to me." a "friend"
"THIS THING YOU'RE DOING... IT'S ALL FOR ATTENTION AND YOU KNOW IT!"
"I'M NOT GOING TO GET INVOLVED BECAUSE I DON'T GET INVOLVED IN THINGS LIKE THAT"
this next comment, she emailed to a very concerned friend of mine...
"DARLA HAS SOME SERIOUS MENTAL ISSUES!"
"SHE HAS A STRONG NEED FOR ATTENTION."