Eating Disorders Support Group
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Hey all! I was just thinking it would be a cool idea for us to vent here about people's reactions in public to our ED. Whether it;s a nasty comment about our bodies, a snide remark about what we eat, or well meaning but intrusive advice, we've weathered it all and we deserve a place to vent. So let's do it girls!
here's a few gems I've gotten:
about starvation:
"What concentration camp did you escape from?"
"You really shouldn't eat so much fruit when what you really need is fat."
"You should go as a ghost for Halloween. You already look terrible and gaunt so you wouldn't need a costume."
"How fucked in the head do you have to be to intentionally starve yourself?"
During binge:
"My, my, someone's got the hungry horrors. If you'd eat this wouldn't happen."
"How do you eat like that and not get fat?" (oh, that's easy, I just starve and exercsie it off)
Lemme hear some of yours now!
here's a few gems I've gotten:
about starvation:
"What concentration camp did you escape from?"
"You really shouldn't eat so much fruit when what you really need is fat."
"You should go as a ghost for Halloween. You already look terrible and gaunt so you wouldn't need a costume."
"How fucked in the head do you have to be to intentionally starve yourself?"
During binge:
"My, my, someone's got the hungry horrors. If you'd eat this wouldn't happen."
"How do you eat like that and not get fat?" (oh, that's easy, I just starve and exercsie it off)
Lemme hear some of yours now!
"It's not portion control if you push it down like that."
"Try focusing on someone else other than yourself for a change."
"I'll take you out to dinner, wherever you want, whatever you want as long as you don't order a salad."
"You need to eat a cheeseburger. Or ten."
"You're a really pretty girl, but you'd be sexier if you gained ten or twenty pounds"
At work:
"I want to take you home and feed you! You're so little!"
"You are such a pretty girl, why don't you gain some weight?"
"I'm cooking these steaks/burgers/etc for dinner. Looks like you could use some too."
Random:
"How are you so thin? Do you eat? No, really. Do you eat?"
"Do you have cancer?"
ur looking really well.
"You need to gain weight. You look awful."
"You're so selfish!"
"You should eat some pies"
"don't lose any more weight, you'll look anorexic"
"Isn't there something you could eat to cheer you up" (My Mum who knows about my ED!!!!)
"You don't look attractive so thin and if you gain weight your boobs will get bigger again" (my now ex whilst he was still my husband, that made me feel soooo good about myself!)
"Hungry today then?" (sarcastic comment about what i chose from the buffet)
"You're the lowest weight you've ever been now? Really, you looked more emaciated before the wedding" (My genuinley lovely friend said this, should i be offended for me now or for me before the wedding, or...?!)
"Just force yourself to eat"
"Do you think you'll just wke up one day andthink, i'll eat a cake, andit will be fine?" (My sister)
"Try and add more calories" (My Doctor, oh, yeah, that's a good idea, why didn't i think of that?!!!!)
"If I seen you in a mall I and I didn't know you I would buy you a piece of pizza"
Both those comments where from my sister.
2 i would love to take you home and fed you pan of home made scours
3 whats size are you
4 i cant wait for me tea can you
"you look awful"
"for f@*ks sake eat something"
"how hard can it be, put something in your mouth, chew and swallow"
"how can you stuff your face with so much and not get fat"
"what you like being sick, why would anyone deliberatly make themselves vomit, your disgusting"
"i'm soooooo proud i have a self mutilating, anorexic dissapointment of a daughter"
"You're going to die" (gee, thanks for your faith in me staying in recovery...)
so what? you needed the calories!
You did this to yourself!
What? Bulimia? I thought only skinny girls had eating disorders. You're not skinny!
Mental Health Counselor at the hospital (not for ED.. never been hospitalized for that)
So what, Darla. Are you going on a hunger strike now?
Friend
WTF is wrong with you?!?!?!?
Another Friend
JUST EAT FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!
Pastor at my church (a woman)
I've told you this before. this is all a cry for attention and I refuse to feed into it therefore I will not get involved.
"Every time I see you, you're thinner and thinner, what do you do?"
"I wish I had your willpower not to eat for a week, look how much weight you've lost!" (ex co worker)
"You look tired, did you eat today?"
"Maybe your kidneys wouldn't hurt if you ate once in awhile." (a ex coworker).