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My best friend in the whole entire world who knows everything about me that there is to know (the ED, the SI, the BPD...) and who I have been friends with forever and have been totally secretly crushing on for a while now just asked me out, like JUST, like 5 minutes ago. So this our first conversation as boyfriend and girlfriend:
Bobby - If I tell you something do you promise not to get offended.
Me - ummm...yeah, sure.
Bobby - Well, since we are going out now, don't get jelous or anything (cuz he knows that I get jelous easily) if I look at other girls.
Me - ok. As long as you're not flirting with them or trying to get with them, I'm cool about it.
Bobby - It's just that you're.....well....you're Fat.
WHAT THE FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK?!
Me - silence
Bobby - Becky, are you still there?
Me - yeah, totally
Bobby - It's just that you're body doesnt have a very nice shape or anything. I mean, you're not sexy like all the other girls at school and you're thighs are a little big.
An then he went onto say that he would support me in losing weight and that he could give me tips like "maybe if you don't eat so much when you binge and purge than you could lose some weight."
This is the worst, most embarassing, most suicide tempting, most I-will-never-leave-my-house-again-because-I-am-so-Goddamn-FAT! thing that has ever happened to me.
I mean, I've allways told myself I was fat (especially since I gained back weight in Anorexia Recovery) and other girls at school have said shit about it before, but when he said it...I can't even describe it...I swear I would've sold my soul to satan in return for just 1 pound of fat melted off this ass!!!
I am 5'9" and I weight 135
(yeah yeah, I know we're not supposed to put stats but I think guys need to see what I'm working with here)
Someone help.
Bobby - If I tell you something do you promise not to get offended.
Me - ummm...yeah, sure.
Bobby - Well, since we are going out now, don't get jelous or anything (cuz he knows that I get jelous easily) if I look at other girls.
Me - ok. As long as you're not flirting with them or trying to get with them, I'm cool about it.
Bobby - It's just that you're.....well....you're Fat.
WHAT THE FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK?!
Me - silence
Bobby - Becky, are you still there?
Me - yeah, totally
Bobby - It's just that you're body doesnt have a very nice shape or anything. I mean, you're not sexy like all the other girls at school and you're thighs are a little big.
An then he went onto say that he would support me in losing weight and that he could give me tips like "maybe if you don't eat so much when you binge and purge than you could lose some weight."
This is the worst, most embarassing, most suicide tempting, most I-will-never-leave-my-house-again-because-I-am-so-Goddamn-FAT! thing that has ever happened to me.
I mean, I've allways told myself I was fat (especially since I gained back weight in Anorexia Recovery) and other girls at school have said shit about it before, but when he said it...I can't even describe it...I swear I would've sold my soul to satan in return for just 1 pound of fat melted off this ass!!!
I am 5'9" and I weight 135
(yeah yeah, I know we're not supposed to put stats but I think guys need to see what I'm working with here)
Someone help.
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omg darling no no no no no no no no do NOT listen to him - as hard as that is i honestly think for you to take back all the hard work you have been doing because of this - he is not worth it at all and why on earth would such a smart lovely sweet girl want to be with somebody who could ever say that to somebody - you deserve so much better than that - i was with somebody who used to say he liked skinny girls and only said he loved me when i lost weight and it turned me into some of the darkest points of my disorder and fed my issues with wanting to be like everybody else 100times worse than it just being in my head because he knew about them and made me feel like by me losing weight it made me desirable! dont you dare let him do this to you - im so mad at him sorry darling i know you like him but seriously you need to look very deep inside and ask yourself are you willing to do this to yourself for somebody who doesnt love you just the way you are xo
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