Eating Disorders Support Group

Eating disorders are marked by an obsessive need to control the intake and/or purging of food. This community is dedicated to those struggling on the road to recovery. Join to discuss your experience with others and find support. Get advice, ask questions, and meet others who are going through similar struggles.

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Smash 07/23/2007

So I told my parents that I had completely given up my Bulimia- they thought that I wasn't purging anymore at all. I hid it pretty well for about a month and a half, but then last night my dad found puke under my bed. I have to purge into plastic bags- hide them in my room for the rest of the day- and then put them in the community dumpster at night because if I throw up into the toilet it clogs it. Now he is really depressed again (he takes meds for it, but he still has relapses) and all he has done today is wake up to excercise and mow the lawn, then he went back to bed again. I feel so terrible, I hate it when he gets like this, especially when it is my fault.
How did your families react when they found out that you had an ED? because I don't think that this is normal- I thought that he would have been pissed off about it.

deleted_user 07/30/2007

My parents had the idea of it at first, they weren't very certain...I had both eating disorders and was on diet pills all at once...they had the idea of the eating disorders, but they just made fun of me for it for the most part, sometimes they got serious and told me to eat but thats about it...when they found the diet pills, they did not get mad because it was an eating disorder, they got mad because they were pills and its showing that I'd do anything to make myself feel better [meaning they thought I'd start drugs]

Thats how they handled me. As for you, I think something might be wrong with your dad in the first place, and he's placing the blame on something else, which just happened to be you. Your dad may be affecting you right now, but honestly you shouldn't worry about it. Heres what you should do
A. Stop throwing up for a few days to get him to stop being worried...maybe in the process you'll forget about wanting it so bad if you try hard enough
B. Talk to your dad before he goes back to bed-take all the strength you have and tell him that this isn't his fault and he has no reason to tell himself it is. Tell him its not your fault either, because in all technicality its not-I've heard its a brain disorder and you can't help it at all...tell him that over time you'll be okay and there will be rough patches but you will get through this. And I promise you will =]

message me if you need

deleted_user 07/30/2007

when i told my mother i was bulimic, she totally blamed herself. You cannot control what your dad does/doesnt do. However, you can control your actions and yours only. (easier said than done i know.) Your dad's reaction is not your fault. Everyone deals with things differently. He chooses to isolate we choose to binge/purge. You cannot blame yourself for your dad's actions/lack of actions. Thats the beauty of it. They are his and his alone. You may suggest help for him(support groups,counseling,tell him to join daily strength too,etc.) But you have to realize his life is his and yours is yours. That was the hard part with me and my mother. If you need anything just ask. im here and i know how you feel.

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