emancipated- I'm the one with the jackass who brought home the card from the girlfriend. I agree with you it was to flaunt it. I (by the way) through the card away. But one of his "excuses" for having to stay with her was "She is always thinking of me, she sends me little notes and cards to let me know how much she cares" I guess he thought a Father's Day card from her was more meaningful than one from his own kids. He mst have not noticed that "we" got him a FD card every year....Dumbass

No, I won't be wishing my x a Happy Father's Day. He used to be a great dad, but he isn't so much anymore. Of course, he would say differently. My daughter talked to him on Mother's Day and when she got off the phone she said she thought he was rude as he didn't say anything about wishing me a Happy Mother's Day. I don't care anymore. The less I have to talk to him the better off I am. He thinks he's Mr. Wonderful, but not so im my eyes. He told our daughter he would pay 100% of her college...boy, has that story changed. Now it's, "I will help you as much as I can, but with the way things are..." What a bunch of crap. He just bought a house, saved money to leave me (for over three years), had us refinance the house six months before he left me and had savings that I knew nothing about. That's o.k. though, he will have to answer for everything he did one day. In my eyes he's a coward and a sorry sack of sh*#!

Beatlefan, if he really thought she was so great, would he have to keep pointing it out to you? He sounds insecure. Always thinking of him? If she were so great, she might think about his kids once in a while (and the woman raising them) and encourage him to do the same. Unfortunately, she is probably thinking of the kids she hopes he will have with her. Yuck.

They should make a Father's Day card -- thanks for honoring your current children's future and financial welfare by not sowing more.

I asked my kids today if they will be sending their dad a Happy Father's Day card - they both said NO. I guess I don't blame them with all the shit he's pulled lately but it still makes me sad.

It didn't have to be this way. He's handled it all so badly and of course blames me for their feelings. Whatever!!!!

I will be sending my ex father in law a card because that's just who I am but I'm sure it will be the last one I will be sending. The inlaws are not even speaking to me anymore anyway but this is still something I need to do. Kind of a final closure. The card doesn't call him "Dad" like I usually would have sent, just basic Happy Father's Day. My conscience is totally clear with this issue. I know I haven't done or said anything to them that warrants their treatment of me. So, I will take the high road, again, and just be who I've always been.

Yes...but thats because I still live with him. It will be a hard day for me. But, when I get out of here I will not be speaking or seeing him for a very long time. I want to end all ties with him. Our children are adults now and dont need us to parent them....I just want him out of my life.

I can't really wish him anything (maybe a skincrawling rash) -- and that includes Father's Day. I didn't expect anything from him on Mother's Day and actually had the most wonderful day with my children hiking and with a picnic. For 2 teens -- it was remarkable. Mother's Day was about 3 weeks into filing papers. You know, it was for me a more pleasant Mother's Day than I'd had in a long time. Just time spent with the kids.

My kids (on their own) bought stbx a card. Whether they chose to buy a gift or not -- they are teens that is up to them. I support what they chose but I do not need to initiate. They are older teens.

He esentially left us and moved 2000 miles away. I have the address for them ready and will support their decision. As for me calling him -- he's not my father, he's not much of a father for the kids now. Why the heck celebrate that.

No, he is not my Daddy. But I will make sure my son does.

Hell no.

That will be up to my son.. I had both my sons with me for Mothers day and it was wonderful.. a true gift.. My B-day I was home alone until the usual time my son was to return.. I did not remind the kids of their fathers b-day.. dont have that role anymore. If my son want to get his dad a card, I will take him to the store and give him $2.00.. His purchase.. I want nothing to do with it.. Like everyone has said.. he is not my father.. and not even someone I can say was a great father..

I love that card emanc... Maybe there is a market for holiday cards, thinking of you cards with some "honest" saying.. hmmmm. A divorce card would be good..

"...he's not much of a father for the kids now. Why the heck celebrate that."

Exactly. For some, it's more like a day of mourning, eh?

never!!!

Chrissy614,
Ditto...

This is a tough one for me. We don't really speak but he did send me a mothers day card and a spa gift certificate. I think i will just give the kids some money and let them get him whatever they would like. I personally don't intend to do anything, but I also don't want them to leave him out totally. I know I am probably too nice, but that is who I am and I am not going to change me because he is an ass.

"I am not going to change me because he is an ass."

Awesome :-)