He did not wish me a happy Mother's Day so I don't believe I will be wishing him a happy Father's Day. I did last year because we were still married, but separated. We are now divorced and I don't find it necessary to acknowledge his role as a father since he deserted us for another.

You know, my X wished me a happy mother's day last year and it didn't do anything for me and I didn't hear from him this year and I'm glad. I did not wish him a happy father's day last year nor will I this year. I honored him while I was married to him about being a great Dad. And he was an awesome dad. I have even thanked him since the divorce for not being stupid while our son was still living at home.

Like awalkinlight04, I will wish my son and father and other men in my life a Happy Father's Day.

Unless I had to talk to him that day, I won't be calling or emailing. We really don't talk anymore so I doubt that would happen. Watch my house sell that day and I have to communicate with him. Who knows, I might just ignore it.

Now as you some of you know, I do not have kids..but I am a daughter!My understanding is this holiday is to honor YOUR dad and mother, not thanking someone for being a good father/mother to your children, which they should be anyhow.. and that before the Hallmark and marketing people blew this way out there, that is what this was..

I have over the years heard people say why would I buy my husband/wife a card, HE is not my Father..he is my husband. Or wife.

What I do think is important is that you TAKE your children to pick out a card, or make one. That if they want to get a gift they help pick it out and have them or help them pay for it. I think that it is nuts that some people have kids in their late teens and twenties and they still go and get the Fathers Day gift and say it is from " the kids" and the "kids" did not have anything to do with it and are what did we get dad? The excuses, they would not know what to buy, or they are too busy or they don't have any money are all just excuses.. and guess what, when they are in their twenties and thirties and you do not get a mothers day or birthday gift or card.. guess why...? Because someone did for them and they did not get the meaning of giving.. OFF my soapbox...

I often through out the year have told a few men in my life, you are a really great dad.. They are, and I meant it, and I admire it.. I think that is important, and since all but one are divorced, they said it means a lot to them that I respect that and acknowledge it. That is the real day for a dad, an unexpected kudo!

No, I won't---he's really not a very good father to his "old" family but his "new" family is provided with nothing but the best. My ex did tell my oldest daughter to tell me happy mothers day, but I think it was only for appearences sake. If he'd really wanted to wish me well, he would have done so directly. I'm glad to be done with him, this past year has been emotional but so much less stressful than living with him.

Nice to meet you Chrissy...I will not be wishing my x a happy Father's Day, for the same reason as you. He has divorced our two daughters. He has them over to his house for two hours on Sundays, for a meal...IF he feels like it, which averages out to once or twice a month. My 17-year-old drives, but if she has to work, or has other plans, he will not invite,or come over to pick up my 11-year-old. Claims his apartment is too small to allow sleep-overs, which is B.S., He's too busy getting laid and drinking and smokin' pot on Fri. and Sat.'s...He moved out on Aug. 4...my b-day was the 18th...he wished me happy birthday, which was more than I got in '07...cuz he was mad at me at the time, poor baby.

ABSOLUTLY NOT!! would I ever tell that man HAPPY anything. Will my girls feel obligated? I don't know, but they can choose whatever and I will support them.

"Rather have my toenails pulled out..." LOVE IT! Ditto.

*IF* he ACTED like a father, I might feel differently.

Omg...am laughing at "rather have my toenails pulled out slowly". I agree with Kathi. He isn't my father. I will, however, encourage my children to honor Father's Day. He loves the kids, and they love him. I believe our children need all the love that they can get, and no matter how hard you try, or how angry you are, it is very, very difficult to turn your back on a parent...no matter how poor a parent they might be. Unless the parent is abusive, I feel it is in the child's best interest to do this.

In my opinion Father's Day is to honor all father's not just your own father so saying Happy Father's Day to any father is just a way of saying I hope you have a happy father's day. I've said it to all the males in my family who are father's...simply wishing them a good day.

My point is that I won't honor the father if he is not worthy of the honor.

When my x moved out June 1,06 he stayed gone for 6 weeks then came home briefly before moving out for good. When he came back (for just that week) I noticed he had all kinds of cards. His mom sent him "Hang in there" cards, His sister sent him "Your the best cards", and his girlfriend had given him a "Happy Father's Day Card", I remember feeling sick to my stomach and "thinking you have got to be kidding me" But the result of that was I realized "she" was now in charge of that (like she knew anything about him as a father). So no, I will not be wishing him a Happy Father's Day. Nor did he or has he wished me a Happy Mothers Day since he left.

the first two years I did acknowledge him on Fathers day.. He is the father of my children.. This year.. if my youngest son want to get a card or gift I will help/take him.. BUT,, it has to be by his request...I spent a lovely day on Mothers day with my youngest and my older son was in from Colorado.. No gifts.. did expect he would take son to get a card (hes 12) but hey. I am not his mother..

No, I will not call or send a card to him. As Kathi said, he's not my father. My kids are adults, so they can make their own decision. He does have contact with both of them. It's so annoying that he is trying harder now to be a father to them than he did when they were growing up, but he is their father and I will respect that for their sake.

Will make it an outing with my son and let him choose something for his dad and a card. It's important for my boy who will get the joy of giving him something. Mother's Day here was not observed by him, but my son did make me a lovely vase at school and he was so excited to give it to me! Best for him if I take the high road.

Men don't care about cards. Okay, I am sure there are some men who do, but the guy whose GF got him a dad's day card during his 6 week hiatus from his wife?! That GF is a bit naive. Yes, the card is why he was with his new GF and not his * in her *. The only reason he didn't pitch the card in the bin was so he could come home and flaunt the cards in front of his wife during his brief return to her.

That being said, I will have the kids get something for their dad for dad's day. He is their dad and that is what they should do. But it's not from me. He ain't my daddy -- that's for sure -- definitely not anymore.