I know in US, community property is defined as the property that was obtained DURING the marriage by either party vs. separate property is which the individual property by either party was received/acquired BEFORE the marriage or during a legal separation. There is too the legal issue of defining "inheritance" that traditionally refers to the property one receives upon the death of a relative.

So my question is, are you calling the act of "signing a dowry" to actually mean your having ownership of property PRIOR to marriage as yours?

Hi and welcome here. I'm very late posting but everyone else has said what I think anyway. I think you'll find there's someone else in the picture. My ex behaved much as yours for twenty years. When I said I was leaving he suggested counselling, then made it obvious he had no intention of changing anything. I asked for a divorce two weeks in. The OW turned up 3 months later. I believe my ex has strong narcissistic tendencies and he left the leaving and application for divorce to me because he did not want the public and other family members to see him as the 'bad guy'. It's interesting and may be helpful to tell you that people (our kids included) now see him for who he is, just as I do.

Hold your head up, maintain your self-respect, don't badmouth him. Just do what you need to do to divorce him legally. Have as little to do with hom as possible ( no contact ). And also see a therapist to help you understand what happened and find your way forward. It does take a long time to heal after a long-term marriage. Be kind and gentle with yourself. You will find a peace and acceptance in your own time.

Love and hugs
kamary

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Everyone was right. The other woman has surfaced....

It figures...I'm sorry honey.

Sending you a big loving hug

((( arath))))

I'm so sorry. Maybe you can use this in the divorce to get your part of the assets or to protect what you have. For me finding out about the other wife gave me the incentive to move on with my life. It wasn't easy but all my whys were answered and there was no confusion to stop me from making a new life for myself. It wasn't easy even knowing what I found, but I have made a life for myself doing what I love.

It will take some time and work but you can do the hard things to move away from the mess he has created. In time you will be happy again and make a life that you love for yourself. (((HUGS)))

Sorry, that's salt in the wounds for certain. More prayers for strength and peace for you and your daughter.

I'm sorry. It is hard when you first find out. Good on you for looking to your future and helping yourself to move on to a new and better life.

I'm glad you're closer with your daughter, too. That's lovely.

Love and hugs
kamary

I'm so sorry arathkamp22...my heart goes out to you. A lot of us know exactly how you feel right now. Just know we are all here to help you get through this.Big Hugs...Kathy

They get it into their heads at this time of life that they need to be happy. Mine said and did same things as yours. I finally asked him to leave because living like strangers together was not good.
It is a lost and confusing time. It will get better. Joining this group will help. Find a local divorce support group too. I did that and now 8 years later have some of my new best friends in my life.

I should be receiving the draft divorce papers today. A bitter sweet moment perhaps. I think finding a local support group in addition to this site is what I need. This truly is a lost and confusing time in my life. Even though my children are older, they have asked to go to counseling to help them deal with all of this. I am happy to report they will be starting next week. I hope this will bring some type of comfort back to their lives. As much as I think it's hard on me, they are just as lost.

I hear you, www.divorcecare.org helps a lot
In learning how to grieve your losses and be
With others going thru the same thing.

Seperation and divorce are brutal times
Add in another woman and it really messes
With your head, self esteem, the rejection
Alone is like a knife twisting in your heart

So glad your children are reaching out it
Is a huge loss for them too. Families get very
Fractured and emotionally harmed no matter
What age.

Let yourself grieve, its very important to
Let your feelings and emotions out and not
Keep them bottled up. I had so much anger
And rage it was making me sick. I had to
Work thru them with the love and support
Of others.

(((((Hugs )))))