Do you have a lawyer? It sounds like you are going to need one. A lawyer will help you with the process of getting your things removed.

I have trouble understanding her extreme reaction. Do you have any history of domestic violence in your past relationships?

Absolutely get a lawyer. If the charges are unwarranted, she should face the consequences of her actions. If it's legal to do this to you, you need your rights protected within the system, such as seeing your son graduate and getting your belongings.
Sorry you're going through this, and congrats on your son's graduation.

wow, get a lawyer and start protecting yourself. I cannot understand her line of thoughts. Hugs my friend. It is an act of a desperate woman.

just got in from work, spent the entire morning in court, I lost... it's unreal.. there is no history at all of abuse ,
I called my laywer who was on vacation, (bad timing) so I was solo in court and she made me out to be a monster, which I am not.. 23 years with her not once have I raised a hand...
the court would not give me back my firearms, I pleaded that I am a member of the pistol club for 12 years and a member of the pistol team for 2 years and had a class A gun license for 15 years... didn't matter i'm not getting them back, so I have to go back in three months, if she feels safe I will get them, but I know that;s not happening...
the good news, I can go to the graduation, just need to stay 5 yards away from her.
my son is upset cause three cop cars showed up at there house at 7:00 am to get a few guns I left there, same time all the kids leave for school, so he recivied many texts as to why are there so many cops at your house...
I am just trying to move on in my life, she;s hates that I don't pay attention to her anymore so she pulls this.
Thanks MNMama for the congrats, i'm so proud of my son.. so glad I get to be there with him, he said he wants to go to lunch/dinner after with just me and my side of the family, not her's which made a bad day not so bad after all...
still hurts though to go through this crap, major set back...... she lied so bad to the judge today, said I ran her off the rode last week, and that I broke in there house, (meanwhile they changed the locks)
so instead of a year, he did knock it down to three months, question is what's her next move...
this women is evil.......

I am not surprised at all. My ex did the same thing. He made Stephen King seem like an amateur fiction writer. Above all else, be prepared for more lies and the woe is me attitude. If your son wants to spend time with you alone, let him. If he is old enough to choose with whom he wants to live with, ask the courts to consider it.

Know that a restraining order is not a sentence of condemnation, but it is an instrument to work in YOUR favor against her. The thinking is: the relinquishing up your guns rules out any potential finger pointing of having assess of firearms being the cause of possible harm.

As a caution: You now you know, your ex has created a trap for you and your future verbal responses are going to be greatly exaggerated. Communication in the form of "text" can be recalled if questioned by court with the subject matter limited to tangible parenting issues to when, where, and time. Keep you head at all cost to this test.

Jeez, I don't know why things like this happen. My brother's ex pulled a restraining order on him while he was off fixing a flat tire she had. Here he is helping her and she's in asking for a restraining order. People suck.

Enjoy the graduation! It's going to be a great time. You should be proud and don't let her be a dark cloud on your happy day.

Been my best since restraining order, but I'M TIRED... I have not spoken to her once and refuse to even pull into driveway, my daughter is 12, has been scouted out by an elite ice hockey team, they contacted me, asked if she would just skate with there team ( they had try outs in April and picked there team in May) this happened two weeks ago, I agreed she could spend the hour , I mean who wouldn't they have best paid coaches at that place. she goes skates circles around the entire team , ( not bragging this child is good on the ice) , so as the girls are changing the president comes over and starts chatting to me, first words out of his mouth is we want her on our team, I told him sure (cause she already told me she wants to be on that team), it's a lot of $$ 2000.00 a year plus uniforms touraments etc, could go to 2500.00, I could of played the poor card if you want her she can play for free etc. it's not my style at ll., i'll pay monthly like every other player, she is thrilled to death about it, gets home tells mom, first words out of her mouth, your not playing for them till I find out more about it from your father (keep in mind if I talk to her I can be arrested), I told my daughter don't worry about it your on the team i'm paying for it not her... then this week yesterday my Tuesday she decides she's taking the rest of the week off and I can't see kids this week, WHAT ! I ask my daughter are you going away cause I would have no issues with it, she said no moms getting her hair done and we have to go,, unreal, I have this all in text which I printed out, told her I would be there at 5:15 to pick them up, she begged me not too cause mom said if you show up she's calling the cops..... begging me please dad don't come,,, so I didn't and it crushed me, went right to my lawyer cause shes already in contempt by still bad mouthing me in front of the kids and did not give me a 30 day notice about vacation time.. he said relax, save everything we want to go in with more thing one thing to make her look bad.
told him the story of how they got a flat tire and she told my kids oh dad did that so we would crash and get killed, and my daughter asked me daddy did you..... omg, I cried my heart out for what these kids are going through, I told them they are my life and I would never ever in a million years hurt them... I honestly think I could be on the verge of having a nervous breakdown... it's just never ending,, if sucide would not leave them broken hearted for the rest of there lifes I would be gone... but I had a friend whos dad killed himself when we were kids and he was never the same, and I can't do that to my kids......I am honeslty at my witts ends......... my only saving grace is I booked a cottage in two weeks for me and the kids to go away for the week, I just have a bad feeling about it, I gave her a 60 day notice, but still it's was not required to be in writing which next time it will be , I just have a feeling the police will show up on kidnapping charges or something crazy like that, this women is insane..........i' was doing so good, I was working out three days a week,, no I can't sleep I just lay there, can't focus at work..... all I need now is to get fired... oh god.....
I was always the strong one and I am completely broken in a million pieces right now......
sorry for the long read....... I have no one I can talk to no one, was suppose to move my son to collage in August had to tell him today I can't help cause mom is taking me to court that day to get the restraining order longer..... no he's upset with her which was not my intention, but i'm sick of covering for her....... let them see the truth, my daughter caught on sitting at the hair dressers for 2 hours, texting me can I pick them up , I work right down the street.........

Ugghh I'm so very sorry that you are going through this. The kids know what's going on, and all you can do is be there for them, when your able to which sounds to me like you are doing just fine in that dept. Sometimes, things just go slow - Take your lawyers advice and just keep everything - EVERYTHING. Also, if I were you, I'd have my lawyer send her a note regarding the vacation - so you have that documented as well - even if it's only two weeks before.

Try to enjoy your vacation with your kids - and as far as helping your son move into college - can't you speak to your lawyer about moving that date? He will be there with you I'm sure - so you can be there for your son?

Congrats on the daughter's team! That's wonderful. I'm so happy for her/you!

Deep breaths, stay on course - you have more power than you are thinking you have right now!

Such crazy times for you. Just keep on breathing, and do what you can for self care. Keep in mind it's for your kids and that might make it easier. I was able to quit smoking for my son over 20 years ago, never able to do it for me, and doing what was right for him during the divorce really helped me stay on the high road. I shudder to think of going through that without him in my heart all the time. Also, I would not have been long in this world after my daughter passed had he not been in my life. We can do more than we know when it's for our children. Take care of yourself, they need you!
So glad for your daughter. Sounds like a great experience for her. At least your kids know what's what and you are there for them.

vicious evil rotten momma
okay say it, scream it
then it doesn't matter
be the man
be the daddy
let v e r m be what she is, she'll be it anyway

do not cover for her
do not blow smoke your kids way..... they'll know it

today was better, talked to my lawyer, he's going to try to move court date again. I let a lot to today, even if it was for one day I felt better than yesterday.... I even actually went to the gym after work since I couldn't see my kids, then took a ride to the beach and sat on the wall for a bit..... talked to my son, he called me about school, told him I will do what ever he needs me to do, if I need to cosign his student loans I have no issues, bad credit thanks to x not paying mortgage, but i'll try, she won't cause she feels she'll get stuck paying the bill, I said your my son I want you in college not a bum ( no offenence to bums) I never went to college and would love to see him go , same for my girls, i'm not running from them or there bills. said your my son...... When I talked to me lawyer we talked about the letter, he said no need, then I also mentioned we have the cottage from Saturday to Saturday, no worries its vacation, then I said the weekend we come back it techinally my weekend, he said so bring them home as per the court order Monday at 6;00 pm.. oookkkkk, but I can tell you she is going to hit the roof, I will have my babies with me for 10 days straight !!!!! omg that's better than hitting the lottery....... he said the court order is in place for a reason, stick to it... really made me feel so much better, so good in fact I went out and bought my hunting license cause she's not keeping this man out of the woods this fall.... I didn't do anything wrong and my lawyer is going to prove it, its going to cost me some extra money, but if I need to pick up a second job I will, not like I never did that before...... i'm feeling pretty good, I pray it stays this way, I can't wait for next week to end to be with them 10 DAYS !!!!!! oh thank you lord.......

Awesome! Nice to hear some good news for a change.

It's amazing what they do to retaliate back...I don't understand this either. In the throws of my divorce I was doing everything to hang on to try to work things out. X would pick up my D and use her handicap van to spend the day with her. While his truck was in a parking lot across the street from my parents house where we were living I would put a lipstick kiss on his outside mirror thinking he would drive home and remember me...something i had always done when we were married...YEP! He got a restraining order on me!!!! He would rather have chewed off his arm or leg than to spend another moment thinking of me!!! Later i found out that OW was in truck with him and called him out on it! You have a lot more crazy going on there than me. What is her behind the scenes story...why is SHE so mad? Gesh!