It's been 7, yes 7, years!!! Can't believe it! I was an absolute mess 7 years ago. This group really helped me put things into perspective. We were married 21 years, and this was the only site that dealt with long term relationship issues. Thank you all for that.
So here I am, still same situation. Living with my paralyzed daughter (now 27!!) who has made great strides in her recovery and independence. She works part-time, just got her drivers license and is the healthiest she's ever been both spiritually and physcially. I'm still her care give as she still needs help. I'm working part time. I've made it through last year with a bout of breast cancer. After double masectomy, chemo, and hell... I'm now on the upswing!
Soooo... amongst all those years, my X got married last year to his OW from work that he conviently left for another life. Thank you to chumplady.com for putting me straight. The other person who saved my life. Anyway, the X never comes around and I haven't seen him over 4 or 5 years. We don't talk or text. Notta. Nothing. I get the "I don't understand why we can't be friends." Puke. So we live in different states and areas of country. He visits his daughter once or twice a year. They talk sometimes and small text but other than that not much since he's busy with his new life with his new wife and her family. BTW she's never been married and has no kids so family I mean her side of the family (sister, brother, in-laws, mother, etc.)
Next month my D is having her annual fundraising event at the recovery center she's been going to try to regain movement in her legs. Great progress. This will be the third year she gets the opportunity to "walk" down a red carpet with her trainers to show everyone her progress. He's never attended. Yeah for me. BUT this year he may come for the event with his OW-wife. Ouch! I work the event since I also work for the recovery center too. He's encrouching my turf! I know. My axiety. I want him to see what she actually does! He's only been to the recovery 2 times!!!! That's it in 7 years! Like I said he visits maybe once a year and usally on weekend 3 day visit. I feel for my D as that's her dad but true colors show through. She see's it.
So my advice I need is... how do I handle this? He and OW-wife coming up to registration table that I'm working and being in the same place. argh... not feeling very good about myself and this situation.
Hello everyone my name is Kayla. I have an addiction to pain pills. It started when I was 21 and am now 31. I can't seem to get away from them. I am trying to learn how to live without them. I finally came clean to my husband( of two years) and ever since I came clean to him about it he always throws it up in my face that im probably going to go get some pills and get high. Mind you it has been...