I kno ur pain my husband buys things that he only wants one of like cheese danishes so instead if buying one he buys a tray chips donuts everyrhing that tastes good but i dont want it but its there n easy n ready. He is a rail n i too gained 40lbs. i use the excuse that if i dont eat it noone will n ill have to throw it away. I feel for u

One of the hardest things to do to help ourselves when our partner is unintentionally sabotaging our weight loss maintenance choices is to say no to eating our feelings.
In other words, what your partner does may or may not change, and when you make the effort to lose the weight, the same situation that you are dealing with now is still going to be there when you take the weight off.
You have to decide how you are going to build your arsenal to help you say no. The food is not forbidden, just not the first choice.
Hope this helps.
You are not alone, hang in there, it will happen, and here you can vent, to help!

I don't know if you are interested in cooking at all, but my main advice would be to try to learn to make some foods that are low in calories but taste great. I make turkey burgers that are fantastic and fewer calories and a lot less fat that beef ones. When I make them, my husband gets cheese on his and I don't have cheese on mine. There are vegetable dishes that taste really good and are not high in calories or fat. Things like stir fried or roasted vegetables, with just a little olive oil, or no oil and broth to moisten them. What I am trying to say is try to learn to make foods that have a lot of flavor without the fat. There are a lot of cookbooks and website devoted to this topic, believe me, you are not the only person facing this. Good luck with it - walking on the treadmill and working on portions are great places to start.

My partner too uses oil etc in cooking so i do most of the cooking and just enjoy his as an occasional treat. We can't change them or expect them to be diiferent just because we want to be, saying NO is not that hard after you get used to it and when they are snaking on fatty things have yourself a large fruit salad or fat free yogurt dont deny yourself just make better choices. I think you can do it if you want to bad enough :)

I'm pretty fortunate...i'm the cook in our family. I do the grocery shopping as well. So, my family eats whatever I make for them.

I'm teaching my nine y/o daughter to read the back of pretzel bags to "divvy" out a serving into a ziploc baggie when she wants a snack. We simply don't buy danishes and donuts...except, perhaps for special occasions. I splurge and buy cheetos sometimes...but, for the most part...we grill/sear our meats, always have a veggie with our meals and I spend the extra cash and get the 100 calorie packs of cookies for the times that we may have a sweet tooth. I know myself, and if I buy it...someone WILL eat it...and I don't want to do that to my family. This is not to say that we don't allow ourselves a tasty treat now and again. Moderation and control is the key.

My recommendation to you would be....take control. Buy what YOU need to keep yourself on track. Get into the kitchen and teach HIM a thing or two. I actually come home from the gym one night and prepared a meal (not a particularly lean and healthy) for my family and made a tuna and spinach salad for myself. I simply chose not to eat that particular meal. I chose to prepare what I needed. There are so many resources online with great tasting recipes that are not only low in calories...lower in fat as well. Harsh as it sounds...there really are no reasons....only excuses. Nevermind the weight..eat for your health.

Only you can make the choice to eat it or not.

good luck!

If your husband wants tasty, look into spices. I have cut out all the fat, and use lots of onions, garlic, hot peppers, fresh ginger, curry, cumin and all the Italian spices. My husband has completely converted to ethnic cooking. He prefers Thai, East Indian and Vietnamese to meat and potatoes and gravy now. He needed to lose weight for his pre-diabetes and he is back to normal.

You need to add these things in little amounts slowly. The surprising thing is that they are not hard to make. But so tasty. Good luck.