If you want to message me to talk a little bit more in depth about what youre going through, feel free <3

I don't really understand what you're saying. Are you grieving or depressed? I'm here if you need to talk.
God bless.

If I'm reading you correctly someone was pretending to be your friend, but it was just somebody screwing with you? Am I right?

Maybe I messed up.
Is there seperate dep/grief group ?
I always have seen grief and loss and depression as one thing, not many.
How can I find the right group?
Sorry.for confusion

For me, I grieve the person I thought they were, the relationship that I thought we had. Kind of grieving the dream. Reality hurts when we find that they are not who we believed them to be. Healing hugs.

I don't want to describe the trauma in dep group. I'm sorry
I'm in the wrong group.
Best wishes to all
Thanks

There is a PTSD group. You may want to join that group. There are grief and bereavement groups as well.

I don't know the answer to the but I've been there. Some people out there are like that. Very uncaring, unemotional, they'll use you and toss you out. Sorry you went through that. I don't know what to say except try to move on. Realize that person isn't worth spending any more time on and start looking for someone better.

Your not in the wrong group. Reaching out for answers and help with your feelings and emotions is never wrong and by the number of replies I'd say your on the right path to some answers. I also surf the widows site cause sadly I'm part of that fraternity as well. Figuring out the answer to your particular problem comes through your understanding of other peoples experiences as related to yours. After all you asked a question and others provided their answers. Keep in touch with this group and I hope you will get some relief in the answers offered.

Thanks. I'm very wary. about sharing , because the situation was hyper- violent. I described it on ptsd group post yesterday am. Have not had a response??? I've been told by councillor to tell my
story but it is quite surreal and worthy of a spot on 20/20. I don't like to give people turmoil.
Folks think they can handle this stuff, but.Ive seen therapists quail , even disbelieve the story and that feels like re-rejection .
Have u.seen. "Syble" ,
It's kinda like that, but Syble got help. Which probably saved lives.
Respectfully
A fellow widower
Andie

so I am going though that now and even though that person didn't care about you it dosnt mean it wont hurt in fact it may hurt more! You put time and effort into a person and realize they didn't do the same for you. As for your question honestly for me I cant make myself grieve, it usually comes on its own. You can try to grieve but unless its real it probley wont do much. Some time in the future you will grieve naturally and its not fun but you have to get better.

I've been grieving for about 7 years. I knew at that point I was living with unstable person . It's the recent trauma, and the plotting, and malevolence, and the trauma of living with the knowledge that I was caught in a situation I coudn't get out of. It's the insanity itself that is traumatizing. Just being in the presence of someone who is truly psychotic. As for the person herself. I do not miss her. I recall all the bribes and all the efforts she put in to deceive and hold me. Now I'm living in fear as the result of this twilight zone effect. Plus the violence . Personally, I hope she is stuck in the love hotel on the astral plane. Can't grieve nobody.