Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Which came first

QPXZ
QPXZ
I don't know which came first. My deression or my lousy life. I lost my fiance in 2009 and I know it happens but it happened to me just like other bad events in my life that I had no control over. Sick parents, bad relationships before I found my soulmate. It is ironic that right before he died I had a lot of problems and someone mentioned how happy we were together and I said to myself at least I have that and felt better. It was as if he was talken from me because I was in a good place for once. Since then my life has been just avoiding one disaster after another. Right after he died my cat almost died and I thought this cannot \be happening. I was on antidepressants but I think they just mask the depression. Now the last few weeks have been a lot of bad luck and I am afraid at the start of each day and happy wehn it is over. A lot of people inferred that now great things would happen to me but it is the opposite. I am in debt and not working full time and no one will hire me full time. I do believe that people who are happy are luckier. People want you to think that they did it themselves but they were luckier. Does anyone else think that depression is caused by bad life circumstances. How can someone not be depressed when they keep getting knocked dowQP
yntovonmij
yntovonmij
Opion from what I've learned from my depression.

Depression is part chemical and part environment. I have issues and a seritonine inbalance. So I have a Chemical inbalance and environmental problems. Some have 1 some have both. In all cases its out of your control. That is all in the past. Its what you do with it TODAY that counts. I talk to a conselor and see a psychiatrist. Sometimes you don't need to talk just medicine. Right now I need both. Explore both options it will help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow, I feel for you..Sounds a bit like my life as well...If its not one thing its the other...Always getting knocked down after bad experiences....Genetics plays the majority of the role and stress will trigger the chemical imbalance...Someone with good genes may not get so depressed but surely anyone would get depressed after their fiance has passed away..Good advice from yntovon..Id just try to simplify things by taking day at a time, each hour at a time etc... and you get knocked down theres aways a new day beginning...Find a good antidepressant to reestablished the chemical imbalance...Hope you feel better soon!
QPXZ
QPXZ
Thanks both of you. I did feel a bit better on the antidepressants but like I said I felt it was a mask. Sort of like people who drink which is not a good way to go of course butit may make them feel better. Me I get hungover. Today I just found out my brother has skin cancer. He had a biopsy and they say they will cut it out till it is gone but it is the same thing. Always something bad. When does the good happen? The last few weeks have been like that. I didn't think it would be easy after losing my soulmate bugt I didn't think it would be one bad thing after another. Now I am at the point that I don't need something good just nothing bad. A lond boring stretch of nothing at all sounds real good right now.

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