I'm not sure what advice to give you without knowing what you did, how it caused you to lose your job, what industry you work in, is this felony on your record going to make it impossible for you to work in your chosen field, will you have to look for training in a different field....there's just a lot of info. left out so it makes it difficult to advise you.

As for your husband, he needs to get off his ass and get a job and pay the bills. That much I can say.

Odd that I should see your post here this AM. I have major depression problems that have taking me to the point of considering suicide. The factor you have that I do not is that you have children. This adds a layer of guilt to any decision you make regarding your life. Apparently you have been and can continue to be a good mother. You did not mention the crime you were involved in and I assume that it is financially based. My problems beside mental health include physical health and finances. Pity life can get down to such "things" that at the end should be meaningless. It was not my intention to give you a reason to throw aware you consciousness. What ever this event was is going to be a memory that all will have to live with. Lives with it.

I worked in law enforcement and i created a receipt for him he drove trucks and he asked to make him one to provide for his company and he would get the real one that following monday and the company that he was with advised my job of what happened and i was terminated. I was investigated and charged with first degree forgery. honestly i really believed my husband would do what he said but instead he used the receipt to swindle his company out of money for services he didn't get.. i later found this information out because had i known this from the very get go it would have been a no go for me. i loved my job and he caused me to lose it. like i said previously i could have very well said no but he is my husband and never thought he would put me in something like this or jeopardize my freedom or my job and my kids future

Perhaps you can start by telling your brothers - let's hope they don't feel like beating up your husband. If your mom's heart can take it you should tell her too. Your kids will also have to find out eventually, especially if you have to go to jail. I hope the judge will see that you had no intention of swindling your husband's company. You made a big mistake. I hope you don't have to suffer too much because of it. I guess now's the time to kick your prayer life into overdrive? Your brothers or mom may be able to help financially for the short term.

I understand thinking that your kids would be better off without you. I had my date all picked out in January and I was going to do it. But things can change. They can get better. I know that sounds really lame with all you are going through. But trust me things can turn on a dime.
A felony charge that is big. I can't even imagine. You must be beside yourself with fear and worry. Telling your family......... if there is actually a court date and hearing and possible jail time you will have to tell them. I am sure it will be awful and hard. But better they find out from you then from someone else.
If you need to talk pm me. Thinking of you. Sending prayers and good thoughts.

i think the thing that hurts me the most is that he acts as if its no big deal and like its just going to go away. I haven't told my family because it tends to get really messy and nasty with them and him. I go to court at the end of the month, i'm scared out of my mind cause i have seen this time and time again while working. Some get off easy and some don't. i'm afraid that it's gonna be bad because i worked in law enforcement and we are held to a higher standard. I use to pride myself in the fact that i didn't have a background other than a ticket now i'm ashamed of myself i dont wanna go out i dont really wanna associate with my friends that i had there because i dont want them feeling sorry for me, i dont want people looking at like i'm a common criminal. I use to socialize with the very people i have to go in front of. The judges, the secretary's i use to run paperwork for so i'm just ashamed.

Forget the past.
You cannot change what has happened. You can only change where to go from here....with or without your husband. In fact you shouldn't be thinking about what HE says right now because it sounds like he's not giving you the support you need and deserve.
You can tell family if they've always been there for you but what's important is that you look within yourself to give yourself what you need. You come first.
It doesn't matter how people "look at you". What matters most is that you tell yourself you're going to face this head on and take it. You can do this. Get through this and regain that pride.
You're tougher than you think you are. We ALL ARE.

Best thing to do is tell your defense attorney anything he doesn't already know.

I am not a criminal atty, but sounds to me like husband conspired and is an accessory. Both are felonies. It's going to likely be you, him, or both of you. Your BEST 'friend' is your defense attorney.

You have also made a full confession on the Internet. You really need to confer with attorney and take ALL of his/her advice.

Keep in mind it is not the end of the world. You still have your husband, your kids, and your health. You made a mistake due to severe financial problems and we ALL make mistakes! Like my dad use to say to me. We all make mistakes, that's why they put erasers on pencils. You will get through this and you will have a better life after you except where you are and let go of the self pity which is working against you right now. There are many who have been down on their luck and came away smelling like roses. A guy named Dave began selling organic bread after spending 15 years in prison and he recently sold his company for millions of dollars! You will find a way to persevere if you listen to your heart, and others will be so proud of you so hang in there and in the future, you will be an example for others who have been in your situation and changed their life for the better.

God Bless

Hi B. You must be distraught about the situation - I'm so sorry for you! I know it's difficult, but the best way to get through this is through transparency and vulnerability. You will actually feel better for 'owning it' and telling your family. Similarly, be transparent with the court and let them see your remorse. This was a lapse in judgement, a bad decision, totally out of character with your previous service.

The only way you're going to move forward through this is by being compassionate with yourself and showing yourself some grace. You're not trying to shift responsibility, or deny accountability, but you've got to give yourself a break! Stop beating yourself up! Recognize what is in your control and what is not and just work on the things that you can change. Take your power back that you've surrendered to the situation.

I know the destruction that looking back and regret can do to a person. I've seen people robbed of their futures because they can't stop looking back, because they can't forgive themselves. Not only are they robbed of their futures, but their children are too; they're so wrapped up in the cycle of beating themselves up that they don't recognize the wonderful 'now moment' that they have with their loved ones.

Yes, you made a mistake. Yes, there will be consequences, but you can and will get through this. You really will. Take care.

For starters you need to be clear about the facts.....You caused you to lose your job. Like you said, you worked in Law Enforcement, you were held to a higher standard. Even if he had done what he said, you were still doing wrong just be creating a fake post dated receipt for work that had not been done. Husband or not, you knew that was wrong and you should have said no, but you didn't and you cost yourself your job.

You need to have a sit-down with your parents and let them know what's going on. If you were charged and booked at the Precinct and had mugshots taken, if anyone types your name into a google or bing search, your Booking Record and Mug Shots will come up via mugshots.com...its that easy. Regardless of your parents relationship with your husband they need to know about your charges and Court date. It would be unlikely, but what if you get jail time? What about your kids? Your parents need to know whats going on.

Hopefully since you don't have a Record, you'll get Probation, usually at least a year and some type of Community Service and a fine. Once you complete your Probation if you've not gotten in any more trouble, the charges are expunged from your Record.

Your husband needs to get a job, because you now have a Felony charge on your Record and it will come up on every background check any prospective employer does for you. So until you work through your charges and get your Record clear again, getting decent work may be hard for you.

As for your husband, I'm not sure if I were you if I'd be okay with his blase attitude, when his actions are what are causing your legal troubles. I would definitely talk to your Lawyer, when you get one about your husbands involvement, because he should not just be sitting pretty while your doing all the stressful legal stuff.

As others have said, looking back doesn't do much good. Now its time to focus on getting through the judicial system and talking to your parents about all of this.

Take care and I wish you well.
Kat