Make a (secret) plan. Be careful. Get away from him as soon as possible. Even if it involves a women's shelter. He is breaking the law. He is dangerous.

I don't even know where to begin with that. If i leave i have nothing....

Sweetie,
I agree with WanderingVet. You don't need to be in that situation. It's very unsafe. Is there any way to contact the authorities secretly. I will pray for you . May God watch over and keep you safe, and also help you get out of that situation.

>>I don't even know where to begin with that. If i leave i have nothing....

That is what most abused people say. The abuser puts them in that situation. That is why I said make a plan. Talk to some women's crisis lines. Just be careful. Don't let him find out. They will help you. They are pros at it.

This is pretty bad already. It is not going to get better. It will probably get worse. Call a crisis line ... when you are alone.

They are right he says he will not do it again but it ends up happening again. I'm so sorry this is going on hugs. I'm here if u ever want to chat

Physical abusers always say they won't do it again but, they do, because that;s what abusers do, I agree with WV, make a plan, talk to some women's crisis centers, women's half-way-houses, whatever it takes, The abuse, in most cases progressively gets worse. You deserve better than that, No woman should have to be subjected to this type treatment.

I don’t know if you are in So Cal but there is a place called Haven Hills for women being abused. If you are not tell me what city and I will look up the info for you

Hey D.S. Fam. I totally agree with everyone Alyblueeyes. Try to make a plan. You don't deserve that terrible treatment especially when already dealing with mental illness which I'm sure he triggers and intensifies. You are not safe. Start putting a little bit of money away here and there. Sell your stuff online, or call a crisis center and see if they can assist you. Good luck. Many hugs to you!

Mel

YWCA of Greater Cincinnati Battered Women Shelter
888-872-9259 or 513-872-9259

I, too, agree with everyone here. Please make a plan and do whatever it takes to get away from him!! You say if you leave you have nothing, but if you don't you may not have your life. You don't deserve to be treated this way. Call a crisis line and have them help you.
Please keep us posted. We care!!!

My heart breaks for you, I have had 2 husbands that were very physically abusive to me, I was so afraid to leave, afraid of people not believing me, afraid of losing financial stability and money and EVERYTHING! ...let me tell you dearest soul....I did it...I ran away from both of them and did lose almost everything...I took a train with both of them and found a new spot on the map to live, I was prepared to live in a homeless shelter but was taken in by people...it's so hard to know what to do and no one can tell you what to do till you are ready...you will know when you can't take it anymore.....I have pictures of all the abuse I received, I wasted all of my 20s with them both. I have to say for how hard it was to leave...it was by far the best thing I ever did...I was so broken and it's taken me years to repair...and I am STILL trying to repair the damages done...please...if you need to message someone who has felt the pains of abuse from the one you love or the one that "loves" you......you can message me...I have so many injuries from the abuse I was given...things that will never be the same on my body...don't allow yourself to have that....I truly feel for you...I know the feelings...I know the loneliness you are going through...it is like a living hell.

I had to make a secret plan to leave...that is good advice...I had to sew cash into padded bras...I would take $20 at a time since I was to give all my money to him...I would lie to him and tell him my boss was shorting me on money or that I had gone to eat after work...I had to be 15 steps ahead of these men...I did EVERYTHING to live...I went to the cops ...I told people...most did not believe me without pictures for proof...I would keep burner phones on me...I would never keep any personal information in the open that he could use against me...and above all...I HAD TO ACT LIKE I WASN'T LEAVING AND I WAS SO IN LOVE WITH HIM!....I learned to do things I never thought I could do with the person who almost killed me...I ended up saving enough money to get a train ticket and go stay with a guy friend I knew online..not saying that is safe...but I was desperate...I had a secret bank account set up ...I made spare car keys and would sew them into bras ....you have to be SO clever to be prepared to leave...

At least call that YWCA crisis number and talk to them. Do that ... at least.

Make sure you understand this: SOME police departments will not respond to domestic dispute calls. You MIGHT not even have the protection of law enforcement. Probably depends on 'what is going down'. I don't know about Ohio, but keep that in mind.

This is kinda urgent.

I don't know what to say other than what everyone else has already said. You deserve better. You need to get out and find a healthy situation.

Your health and safety is the most important thing. I know even thinking about leaving is very hard. My mom was in the same position you are in. My dad was very abusive but she had nowhere to go. Do you have a counselor you can talk to? Abusive people rarely stop being abusive without intervention. And this certainly contributes to your depression. If you don't have a counselor please seek one, or a good friend that can help you. You are not alone and we do not want you to be in harm's way. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I know you must feel lonely. Please try to find someone to help you.