Yes, I have the same trait as you. I worry that people are judging me and scutinizing my every move at work. That is bad b/c it makes actually doing work at hospital HARDER.
As to the last part of your post, I want to ask you something......
Did you ever hear the saying, "a friend is someone who knows your faults but loves you anyway."
Sometimes, I wish I had more friends like that definition!

I found that I spent more time worrying about what people think of me than people actually thought of me, lol. You can only do your best, and your best changes from day to day depending on your mood, health, and many other factors. I hope I am not coming across as "flippant", if we were face to face you would see by my demeanor that I am talking with great empathy.
Great, now I am worrying what you will think of me, lol.
We all want to feel accepted, that's the great thing about this place, come as you are and you'll fit right in.
You are not alone.

Thanks for these replies. I worry so much about what other people think it’s almost paralyzing

I guess this is just what happens when one doesn’t feel good enough for one’s parents

Or maybe we shouldn’t blame the parents, I never feel good enough for anyone

I am not worried about what other people think of me, or how their judgments and scrutinies may affect my reputation to cause me to question my value. "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn" (as Rhett Butler said to Scarlett O'Hara), nor do I care what other people say or what kind of gossips that they may spread. Gossips are idle words; constructive criticisms assist with self-improvement; reputation is skewed and leaned in favour of the gossiper.

You know your own value. You live by your own terms and don't need the approval of others. You are unique, and the people around you should accept you for who you are. Do whatever that you want to do (unless you are a minor and needing to ask permission). Be confident in yourself!

Maybe you ask your higher power and whatever you conceive God to be to help with this. I personally think we can all worry about whether someone likes us at times. It is good to reached out.

I used to struggle with the same thing. I find the more I work on myself the better I feel and the less I care about other's opinions. I think everyone cares to some extent what others think. I just think we need to be very careful about who's opinions matter. We accept you here.

i do this to and i always negatively imagine what other people are thinking of me. i never imagine that they are thinking something nice.
I know that what we are doing is mind reading and that is not possible but i cant seem to stop it.
i wish that i didnt care but dont know how to change it. i am also such a people pleaser.
sorry that this is not really helpful to you but maybe it might bring you some comfort that you are not alone and that others are the same. I suppose we could meet each other one day and wonder what we were each thinking

I think that worry about what others think can be a part of depression. It's much easier to work on changing this when
I'm not feeling so upset/ depressed about things.
And I do believe that it can be really "deep seated". If you
got the message as a young child/ person, that you were
not worthwhile, it's a belief that probably sits deep inside your
soul. I think that it can be changed but in the meantime, hope it helps to know that others struggle with this thing all of the time. It always amazes me when people seem to feel so confident in themselves (or are they?).

absolutely. You put it so well. I think that's a problem in our society. Too much emphasis on achievement, material stuff, looks, age, etc. Everybody needs love and acceptance no matter who they are. It's so hard to find, especially those of us who don't "fit in" as well. I'm there, too. It's very painful.