I am so very sorry for your loss. I've lost family with lots of notice, with no notice, for predictable reasons, and for stuff out of the blue. There is no one way that is easier than the others.

They all suck.

Speaking as a dad who has a daughter that I love as much as anything I've loved I would say this to you. Please go on with your life. Cry if you must, take the time you need, but please live a long life, as long as you can. Then when we meet again you will have a lot to tell me!


There is a bereavement group here, you can find it from my profile. Please consider joining us.

As for the stages of grief, I think of them as emotions of grief. There is no set order that they come in, and the emotions will come at us over and over. It is not one and done as some therapists may suggest. Your grief is unique to you.

Gentle hugs

I am sorry for your loss. Sending you love and hugs.

(((Alana)))

I know what it was like when my Mum died.

Alana,
I'm so sorry for you and your family. :-( My heart breaks for you - I know what it's like. You will be in my prayers.

Sorry for your loss. You are a survivor and will weather these life events due to your ability to feel love that will last beyond the life.

Sorry for your loss, Gentle Hugs!

My condolences.

Sending hugs

Oh i am so sorry. Sending thoughts and prayers. Sounds like you have good memories and were close. Its never easy to lose someone close.

I want to say that I am .sorry ...for your loss ...but I do belive ..your father has gone back home ...to God ....ware ..we all come from ......my father ..does not have long ...left to be with us ....so I try to visit as much as I can ...I would like to visit more ....he ..also is a great father ....and I know I will realy miss him ...I have lost my mother and a brother .....each one ..seamed to hit me diferant ....my brother was the hardest ........my mother ..I was in aw ..of ...she .never complained .....she told jokes till the very end ..when she couldent talk ...she had my dad ..right out her jokes so she could pass them around ...to the doctors and nurses .....I was with her when she passed .......................................what helped me .....was ...rembering .the happy times ..the times we laughed ..so hard ..our sides hurt our Jaus ..hurt .....rembering ..the love ..that was between ..us ....rember ...the esences ...of who they were ...and know that they still are here ..beside me ....so ..pray to them ....by talking to them ..asking them ..to look after my children and grandchildren ...and ..that I love them .....I will be her for you .....take very good care of your self ....God bless

So sorry for the loss of your father and brother, I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you and your family. Gentle hugs and prayers

its so sad when we lose a family member....I lost my dad to Alzheimer's disease in 2009....we did not get along well in live but I loved him still we fought like cats and dogs at times...I was rebellious child....and he was conservative Germanic Father....Mom was stuck between us at times...now she is 91 and will not have long on this Earth before she goes and that will hit me harder than anything because she really is my best friend in my world....since forever she has been a great mom!

I am so sorry your dad is gone but the cancer hurts and now he is not in pain any longer....hugs and being there for your mom is exactly what your daddy wants you to do! Hugs bill

Thank you all for the condolences. I still refuse to believe he's gone.

I can't say anything that hasn't already been said. Just know that I'm sending love and support.

Hugs