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Telling your parents

shyloner
shyloner
I have had thoughts of suicide since I was 14. In the past year I have thought about it considerably less than usual though and normally don't really think about it all, but I have seriously considered it in the past. I have a history of it... Recently there was a major conflict that has lead me to consider actually telling my parents that i have had this problem in the past (not because I'm scared I'll do it, I have other reasons). They have no idea I have ever had thoughts of suicide. They know I have problems with depression from time to time but don't know just how bad it gets. I'm more afraid of telling my dad than I am of telling my mom (partly because my dad doesn't really seem to have such a high opinion of me and is likely to freak out more).

I'm just curious, has anyone else ever told their parents? How have they reacted? Does anyone have any advice? Is this really such a good idea?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I had crap parents so could never approach them. If you have loving parents I know that you not giving them a chance before you take drastic resorts will ruin their lives. Please talk to them, if they don't help please get advise from professionals
Empathy66
Empathy66
When i was suicidal as a teen i told my dad. Standing there in the kitchen sobbing my heart out, a time when we we really need our parents and our parents should be there for us.
Sadly i was let down big time and the whole situation deeply affected me so much, it has had a terrible impact on my life.
I dont go to them anymore, even if my life depended on it.

Having said that, dont let it stop you telling yours, we all have different parents thank god, and each parent deserves a chance.
shyloner
shyloner
I don't know, like I said my dad doesn't seem to have a very high opinion of me (I have no idea why). I've had some negative experiences with him.. mom would probably be more sympathetic but still...

Though, in the past year or so I've hardly thought of suicide at all and have been considerably less depressed. In the past few months I've actually been doing ok.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I told my mum I was going to kill myself once only thing said was just taking the easy way out end of story.

Was seeing a therapist and a girl who where more supportive at the time might not of been here otherwise.

Surprisingly have nothing to do with my parents or family anymore.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, one of my siblings admitted to wanting to commit suicide when we were both in high school and was handed a knife by our dad... Long story short, he was someone I couldn't trust especially since he thought depression and anxiety were fake and expected obedience and positivity at all times. He changed a little when someone married to a friend of his committed suicide, though, several years later and that day said he was worried about me. (Hasn't really seemed concerned since, but isn't as bad as he used to be.) I had told my mom before, and while she seemed a little worried, I think she didn't really believe I'd do it. Anyway, to put it simply, I think you should tell them if they trust and care about you. If they seem to see you as baggage, however, they will only make things worse.
itsjustme8
itsjustme8
Hi

in addition to your parents, do you have anyone else you can confide in? Counselor, clergy, Great Aunt?
shyloner
shyloner
Yeah, all of my cloisest friends know and a few of my family members. I was seeing the school therapist for a little while, he knows too.
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