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She was snipping and biting at me all this morning. I finally had to call her on it. I felt it was happening because she had come out of her "buzz." When I explained I knew she was drunk last night. She did not deny it. And when she tried to lessen it's importance. I refused to let it be discounted in any way. So I opened up and explained how hurt I was by it. How my plate is so f-ing full what with facing knee replacement surgery , her drinking , her being unemployed , keeping secrets about her drinking from her family and finding out I don't for the FMLA protection of my job. So I might be looking for work when I recover. Then there's the fact I would be relying on her to help me after the surgery. And she at any time could be drunk again. I just now am starting to feel pulled in many different directions. I also feel so helpless and broken. I know some of it is my own depression. And I cannot afford to be that broken right now. I just really really HURT.
Flag it. This chick can't give you a job, she can't fix your knee. She can get a job. As to drinking? you can't change that. She has to change that. If she's an alcoholic you take her like she is or you leave her. Don't waste energy being hurt by her. What else would an alcoholic do than drink? And when caught, what else would they do than lie about it?
It's not personal about you. It's where she's at in her life. No point wasting time being hurt. Just take it or leave it. It's a condition of having her in your life.
She hurts means she needs help that is not going to make her worse. She chooses help and I'm there still loving her and being as supportive as is possible. She chooses no help and self destruction then yes it hurts to see her deteriorate. And no I have no expectations of her to give me anything but love and respect as I love and respect her. So if she chooses self destruction then I let her go. But I still will love her. And being human means I will be in pain. Also I absolutely will have the courage to admit having that pain to myself and others. Along with letting them know when I think I need help. And also that I will survive and overcome that pain. But here and now I feel the pain of where I am. I feel the responsibility of knowing I made the choice to be here. Painful or not. And I will most liKelly wake up tomorrow with some amount of gratitude for having the precious gift that is my life. I will go on living with all my emotions in tact along with me being the best I can be under the specific. circumstances. Thanks for your response bridgie101. All the best to you. I respect your precious words and you as well.