Why are you feeling sad?

Hi. Not sure what your spiritual background is, but I am a Christian and I believe that we’ll never fully understand why we experience the things we do until after we die and we can see the bigger picture. Though sometimes I think people get glimpses of the bigger picture before passing on to the next life. As someone whose dealt with a lot of things that have really made life difficult, I can say that it’s a hard pill to swallow that we must endure these things in this life, but it is only a blip in time in the context of eternity. There is evil in this world but it will be defeated once and for all someday.
Sometimes it’s good to just share more about how you’re feeling regarding your faith. I struggle with feelings of condemnation often and it feels good to just explain them to people without necessarily being told that the way I feel isn’t true, even though even I may believe deep down that what I feel isn’t true... if that makes sense. I hope you are able to find someone to communicate these feelings to who will ask questions and accept what you have to say nonjudgementally.
Best wishes, feel free to message me if you need to talk more about this!

That question is as old as time itself. Why do we suffer? How can a loving God do nothing while people suffer? These are all good questions but my answer to that is that there isn't a good enough answer. In other words I don't think any reason is a good enough reason for what people go thorugh which is why I am more of a Buddhist than anything else. Eventually you find peace which is a place where you simply stop asking why and start finding a way to live with what is and thriving in spite of it.

It is hard to understand how a God could allow good things to happen to some, i.e., answer their prayers but not those of others. It really bothers me when I hear someone say, this or that happened because I prayed. It's like "I asked Santa Claus for a bike and I got it because I am good". When you're depressed you feel abandoned by God and many others. It doesn't make any sense to me, except for some having faith gives them something to hold onto. When you are suffering it's hard to feel any spirituality or faith (at least for me). Just my opinion and I understand your questioning the presence of God when you are suffering.

I hate to hear how sad you are.I am a retired VA Hospital nurse and worked in Surgical Intensive Care Unit.I had a horrific car wreck in 2007.I ran off an embankment,rolled my SUV 3 times and was ejected.My grown son found me.My scalp came partially off my skull,fractured collarbone and shoulder blade,my left arm had both bones protruding out of my skin(of course both bones were broken),my right leg was almost cut in half and dangling by a thread,and my left leg by my kneecap had a hole in it that you could put your fist in.I was taken to a level 1 trauma unit,the hospital behind the
VA Hospital that I had worked at so I knew some of the doctors at the trauma center.They took my to surgery immediatedly to cut my right leg off and then the next day they had to do it again.When I left that house,I had to go to a rehab hospital for 3 weeks.When I was discharged,I went and got copies of my hospital stay.They only let me have 75 pages.When I got home,I sat down and read each page.My sight became blurry because with each page,I cried.I kept telling myself,God,I shouldn't have lived.This was the kind of patient's I had taken care of at the VA.These patient's wasn't suppose to live.I knew God saved me but for what,I don't know.I am thankful that he pulled me thru it.In the Bible it tells us that we will have hardships but he will never leave us,he will always walk us through it.I still get depressed at night and hate myself for having the wreck.My son seems to thing that my Ambien was still in my system but I did not have enough blood in my body for them to draw a tox screen on me to see what medications was in my system.I am on Effexor for my depression and sometimes it doesn't help.Sometimes I cry myself to see.I have gained to much weight and I can't wear my prosthesis and that really gets me down.My favorite verse in the Bible is,I can do all things through Christ,my Lord and another is ,With God all things are possible.I hope this helps you a little.Jan

He watched people nail his Son to a cross and hang him there to die....I think He knows a thing or 2 about sadness.

God doesn't let the world be enveloped in Sadness, he lets Humans have Free Will, and we tend to screw it up more than we get it right.

God gave us many gifts. The first was life here on Earth. Then, he came to Earth as Jesus ... the Messiah, to tell us how to live this life. And that sums it up MORE OR LESS. The more we live this life according to His word, ... the better it is ... ESPECIALLY later.

This is the domain of Satan (evil). Evil LIVES here. It is all around us. God teaches us how to AVOID evil, how to banish it, and how to ENDURE it.

He does NOT live our earthly lives for us.

I understand completely your feelings. & no I won’t say the common “cliche” that it gets better. I will say that on your days where you feel somewhat ok write yourself like journaling but write to yourself as in 3rd person but as a happier version of yourself. Compliment yourself on the things the sad version wouldn’t sayExample: “Wow look at how good you look today! You are so damn cool to be around” Write it or type it somewhere in your phone or computer where only you can see it. On the days where it gets tough go back to those writings and read them out loud to yourself your mood should begin to shift. I have suffered from depression my entire life !!! It took me years to realize how therapeutic writing is. I’m 33 now and I find myself going through notebooks reading things I couldn’t even believe I wrote ! And yes eventually, (not immediately) but my mood began to shift where instead of being depressed weeks at a time I may only have down periods 1 week out of each month. I’m still progressing to be depression free just by shifting the way I feel about myself . Hope this helps.

I am sorry you are struggling right now. I used to feel very much the same way as you are feeling. Have you considered speaking with a Pastor or contacting a Christian Counseling services for some answers to your questions? I used to spend a lot of time in prayer and pouring over God’s Word in hopes of understanding my own darkness and pain. God truly is the one Person we can go to and pour our hearts out without fear or judgement. He loves us right where we are.
I’ll be praying for you.

I know exactly how you feel. But you have to think of it like this: you might not understand what God is doing right now, and you might never know, but, it's for a reason. It's such a hard concept to wrap your head around, but He is always with you and He is the only one that knows why He does what He does. Stay strong.

I'm atheist, but:

I believe that each day when we wake up, we have a choice. We can look for the good in the world, or the bad. It's a big world and filled with both.

Perhaps you can join a church. Go to the pot luck suppers. Help with the landscaping. Decorate for the holidays. Get involved. Get around other people who are also struggling.

For some, that can be depressing.

Thoughts that run around like "well they're such good people, why didn't god fix them?". To me, that's missing the point. Yes they're good. They're also a bit bad. They're human...imperfect. And they STILL have value and something to contribute. In seeing their imperfections, you can see that you're OWN are acceptable too.

Look to make friends...but don't put "all your eggs in one basket". People fail at times, and you'll fall too if you're leaning too hard on just one or two people.

Instead, seak connections with everyone. Even those that seem strange to you, or too old, or too young. There's something to be gained from everyone's humanity.

Maybe just put the questions on the back shelf for now...and find meaning in each small day's struggles. There really IS a lot of good out there. Look at each person, who in their own way, responded to this post.


Big hugs, Patti

God gives us all free will and some people choose to do evil. If he intervened all the time there was suffering, there would be no freewill. We who have suffered will appreciate heaven so much more when Jesus comes back on the last day. God is working good for you everyday. He brought me out of darkness in my family and is only reason I haven't gone into despair. He is the true fairness and love in the world. I knew he loved me and would save me