You have heard the saying, "you can pick your nose, but not your family" well it's true. : ) It souns as if you have a good relationship with your daughter, that's good. You may want to talk to her and let her know to placate your father, he won't change his ways, but you can let her know you don't agree with what he says.
If he is abusive, then yes, you have to eliminate exposure. If not then maybe you can keep him out of any serious discussions. And let everyone know to limit his knowledge of situations, this keeps him from chiming in.
I know what you mean about the fuze, I have the same problem. But when I hear something that will set me off, I will count to ten, seriously, there are a lot of pauses in my life. I would rather not say something then regret it later, ESPECIALLY with my kids.
My dr told me about counting, it helps. Best of luck

I have a great relationship with her. She is very much like me, so we do butt heads sometimes, but at the end of the day, she knows how much I love her and that I'll always be available to her. My father just opens his mouth about things he knows nothing about. That's what makes me so angry. And he argues with me when I correct him. I'd like to shove my fist down his throat sometimes, and I don't mean that figuratively. I just bite my tongue and try to ignore it. Anyhow, with everything else I have going on right now, this is just more shit piled on that I don't need! It absolutely infuriates me!

I like the idea of counting and letting things settle in. I do that sometimes and generally it works. When the symptoms are really ramped up like they are now, nothing seems to work except completely blowing my stack and then I end up in the hospital psych wing.

Hi Crash, I'm sorry things are so difficult right now. I know for me I have chosen not to have my father in my life and I don't regret it. You have to think about if it would be a big loss to not have him around? What makes you stay in contact with him now? Is it because of obligation, or are there good parts of your relationship too? Are you currently in any counseling? It's been really helpful for me.

I am in counseling. I have a psychologist who specializes in PTSD that I see almost weekly. I also have someone who manages my meds. When things were going well for me, before the PTSD was triggered, things weren't so bad. Part of my PTSD is from childhood where I witnessed a lot of domestic violence. Then I went into the military and then into public safety. Needless to say, I've been seen my share of bad stuff. Anyhow, I know that he can't handle the fact that I am suffering from a mental illness. His father was mentally ill and in fact, my father probably is too. He drinks like a fish! I keep in touch with him because I genuinely care about people and I want my kids to be able to see their grandparents. I'm reminded every time we get together why I can't stand my family. I've done a really good job over the summer of staying far away, particularly from my father. He was the tipping point last year that drove me into the hospital after developing my suicide plan. While I was not doing well by any means, he just pushed me that little bit to finally crash and burn. I'm so sick of it and I just want to be left to raise my kids without my parents interfering. The way I look at it, they screwed up so they don't get to be critical. I'm doing far better at parenting than they did.

I guess at one time, when I was in denial and really avoiding dealing with reality, I could say there were some good times. Since really understanding that PTSD is an illness of avoidance, I have stepped head on into my treatment. I will always have these symptoms and I can learn to manage them. I can't have people around me that push me like that though. There are no good times worth losing my mind over! And at this point, I've about lost it. I have no weapons anymore as they were taken away and really, I don't want to die. I just want to be left to live my life without constant interference.

Made it through the night. Took enough of my seroquel and oxycodone (I have a broken leg from mountain biking) that I slept like a log! I've had a chance to think things through and I didn't even resort to cutting like I have in the past. Thanks to those who responded to me last night. It helped to get things out and to know that someone was listening!!

Oh, you know you do a good job as a father. Just tell your daughter that you love her and she is suppose to mind you and ignore her Grandfather. He sounds like an ass that could damage her self worth. Don't take your anger out on your father, just wait until you are cool enough to tell him that you are the father and you will raise your daughter. Don't leave, sounds like your daughter needs you.

I hate that feeling of know you are headed to that dark place. Stick with us, that care of yourself and let us know how you are.