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angelscrydragon
angelscrydragon

Today, I wish I had someone to talk to about some of the things that are going on in my life. I can't really complain to my husband because he either wants to offer suggestions to try and help, or makes me think that problems are my own creation and that I can control how I feel about the issues that I experience. I was talking to a co-worker about the issues that I have, but I think I have frustrated my co-worker to a point where he just doesn't want to talk about it anymore. 


I have thought about seeking a therapist, but one of the reasons I don't want to is because my ex can use it against me when it comes to my 12 year old. Besides one of the issues that comes up with a therapist is the issues that I had with my 12 year olds dad. Which kind of defeats the purpose of having a safe place that I can talk about any of that. 


But most likely, I will just ignore the issues since overall it's just not any of my business and I don't need to stick my nose in where it doesn't need to be. 

GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
Hi angels! I was feeling like you earlier too. You know, it might help if you start Journaling. You can handwrite or type about these issues. I miss my diary which is on my computer that died in 2017. I vent on here and to my best friend. I have a therapist. I have been putting off scheduling an appointment because of an insurance issue but I really think you could use someone to talk to. Unless you're talking about seeing pink elephants in the room, I don't see how therapy would hurt you. How would your ex find out about it anyway?
angelscrydragon
angelscrydragon
@GreenEyes727 Journaling helps sometimes, but it is hard to find time to do it unless I am at work, and either I have to take a journal back and forth every day, or leave it at work, but then I also find once in a while that someone has gone through my things...Journaling on here is probably the simplest way, which I do semi regularly. Therapy would probably be the most beneficial, but my ex would find out because in order for me to get my summer (in-person) visit the courts mandated that I provide him with a letter about my mental health which should include if I am seeing anyone for it, whether or not I take anything for my mental health...
GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
Wow I've never heard of that before. Well that puts you in a spot. I'm glad that you do journal. Well so what are the issues that you needed to talk about?
Scaredandafraid
Scaredandafraid
This day in age setting a therapist wouldn't be able to be used against you when it comes to your child unless it was something about harming your child. All you have to disclose is that you are seeking a therapist in order to better understand your emotions.
angelscrydragon
angelscrydragon
@GreenEyes727 My journal on here contains most of them, but usually it has to do with the lack of control I have in my own life, and the struggles that I have between being the type of person that I want to be, and the ability to do my job (whether it is work related or being a provider for my family.)

I am also trying to put some of my issues on the back burner until my hormone levels start going back to normal in about 6-8 weeks from 6/27/22. And just trying to get into a position that will help me with how full my hands will be. I am pretty excited that my 12-year-old will be getting here tonight, and that the new baby is almost here as well.
angelscrydragon
angelscrydragon
@Scaredandafraid I wish I could agree with you, and I mean going into therapy should never count against a parent, since self care is so important in being able to care for other people. However, in my experience, courts use whatever they find against you, whether it is your mental health, your background and upbringing, or even just the fact you are poor. And it is not just the courts doing this, but authority figures such as CPS (Child Protective Services) or whatever the initials are where you are from, and separated/divorced parents.
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