Like you at almost 73, I too am alone. I do have a son who lives with me, 29, but he has his life/work etc. I'm in stage 4 of 5 renal failure and live with constant challenges in mind and body. Atm, I've got aprox 30 days to be ready to move out of my home of 27 years. I'm exhausted mentally and physically...butta, I no longer am waiting or willing to believe my son will help me the way that I need help. It's a hard pill to swallow, but knowing that I'll need to find my own way, I can ask for help, but won't believe it to happen until the action is completed. Wondering if you are in a codependent relationship? Today, my son came down stairs in a mood...said 'you could have asked me how I feel'...I said it's your typical behavior to stay upstairs on Tuesdays. No longer buying into drama or 'reading minds'...it helps with the 'heavy load'. I do hope you are resting more comfortably now. Wishing you peace healing and strength.

Big hug Lady

I'm so sorry that you were in an accident and that your're feeling alone

I think to get away from a relationship like this you have to do what feels uncomfortable and that you really don't want to do until it does feel comfortable and does become what you want to do if that makes sense

Then you'll see how strong you are and how little you get from this person

That he's not worth it and you will heal and you can move on and be happy

Baby steps sweetie and a big hug of support...xo

That accident sounds scary and serious. I am sorry your guy was not helpful nor caring. I have been in codependent relationships with a man who didn't care. Probably more than one. They left me to deal with everything bad on my own. I think recognizing his patterns of behavior and how they don't help you nor make you feel secure and loved is a big first step.

Oh wow LadyLight. I'm so glad you're here to tell us your survival!!!

I'm a family of one too and was feeling the same way today. I wasn't in a car accident, but I had a really hard fall and scraped my arm badly. Driving home I kept screaming at the top of my lungs, not because of the physical pain but because I felt I had no one who I could call. You are your best advocate dear. Please take care and be well. BIG HUG

Mlro853, that is a lot to put on just one person. If you can, you should take a part of the house with you as a memory. It is sad to lose your Home you’ve been your whole life but trying to be positive, I like to think wherever you are is home. (I moved a lot as a child and adult) I hope wherever you move to next feels like home.

It is more peaceful when we don’t engage. It’s understandable you feel the way you do, stage 4 is serious. You’re a kind person. I do hope you get the help you need and deserve.

I do depend on him as my caregiver. I leaned on him when I got sick, unable to do things on my own or daily tasks, I now look for aids to help me and my disabilities as I can longer expect help from him. It’s ok if he can’t, I just feel unloved and hurt because I know he’s doing it out of anger. Trying to let him heal his way while trying to heal myself.

Suncloudjd thank you for your sensitive and kind words. Thank you also for believing in good for me. It helps to have support without judgement and patience to my healing. You’ve helped me a lot in my healing journey.

Hasty_05 thank you for that insight. I’m sorry you’ve been through it once and even more sorry it continued. I hope that is not the case anymore. You have a good soul and should be paired with such. You said exactly what I’m going through. I’m trying and hoping for love to find me as well as strength for myself.

Melt2020 thank you for caring and wishing me well. I’m sorry you took a bad fall. I really hope you’re ok and a speedy recovery. I think isolation has a big factor in depression. DS has helped me because of this. I hope you were able to talk to someone maybe here but still I am sorry there was no one there at the moment to be there how you needed. It makes a difference. I too have done the same.