Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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RockNMetalChic 02/21/2008

Just gonna put it out there- i'm afraid of skinny people- really i am- seriously- hate crowds of them- feel they are always judging me- cant eat in restuarants without thinking- they are staring at me wondering what is that fatso eating- scared to meet my two ds sisters cause damn they aren't fat and put up beside them i'm gonna be super gigantic ! this really does put a lot of stress and anxiety on me- i won't wear anything but jeans cause dang it- i feel the need to hide my body and i know i'm obsessed with all this cause i've already lost 40 lbs and should be happy that i'm not gaining - also when a skinny guy ask me out i always decline cause i'm afraid i will break him- am i the only one here like this ? am i in this alone- i feel like the fugliest person on earth and heck maybe i am - but dang i'd like to know for sure....just had to vent about this and let it all out....

deleted_user 02/21/2008

I gained weight after my 3rd child. After I lost it I learned it wasn't the weight- it was me. My husband thought I was sexy either way I just had to learn to think the same way as him

deleted_user 02/21/2008

So why not keep losing some more weight? How did you lose the 40lbs? I still find that really great.

deleted_user 02/21/2008

I completely understand cause i often feel the same way...you often feel just unconfortable and can't relax or have fun in certain places because you constantly feel like you are being judged....i hear ya!!!

deleted_user 02/21/2008

You are beautiful the way you are

deleted_user 02/21/2008

she is beautiful the way she is, But isn't comfortable with it. It can really be exciting to be able to sculp and change our bodies into a healthy works of art.

deleted_user 02/21/2008

She is my best friend. I will support her anyway I can.

RockNMetalChic 02/21/2008

exactly Carly - that is the way i feel in public most of the time.... and Bella lost the weight in a way i wouldn't reccommend to anyone- moved 17 times in 6 months - long long long story that if i told would get hate mail and ur a horrible person and all that fun stuff- but i am continuing on this weight loss path and doing it the right way this time- i've just changed my lifestyle and what i eat... and i'm exercising more - plus chasing kids all day helps i guess.... but i still find myself 1000 lbs in the mirror...

Sara017 02/21/2008

Im tired of the judging part too, Im 85lbs 5' 4" and i wont judge you

deleted_user 02/21/2008

I personally prefer the term "petite" or simply "small"

I have always been small and get the "looks" also.
For as long as I can remember, I have been so self conscious about my weight.
I am perfectly healthy, I eat fine, my metabolism is so fast.

So when someone says or thinks, "God, shes so thin, or "she could gain a few", it feels just as bad, it is JUST as rude and it HURTS just as bad as if someone were to say,
man, shes fat" or"hey, you could loose a few pounds.."

See how the same issue can hurt someones feelings just as bad, so in a sense...
join the club

deleted_user 02/21/2008

well thats good...no diets but a life style change! Thats what im going for too! I know I look in the mirror and i look huge...but i try to remember that i am my own worst enemy and other people probably (hopefully!) aren't judging me that harshly and see me in a different way than i see myself.

deleted_user 02/21/2008

Well I'm glad you are losing weight in healthier way now. Your perception of yourself hasn't caught with the new you yet. But it will. Especially when your friends around you keep telling you how great you look. Believe them. Its true.

deleted_user 02/21/2008

oh and by the way,
there is nothing to be scared about, I'm a pretty nice person and not scary at all

oh, and non judgemental either

RockNMetalChic 02/21/2008

i agree - its society that makes us this way partly though ok big part is society- we r told that we should be judged based on our looks- and then and i'm not saying all of u - so don't go thinking i'm stero typing - but "some " men that just make u feel bad for either being too fat or too thin- doesn't life blow sometimes?... or am i the only one that thinks so?

Sara017 02/21/2008

i actually need to gain weight, cause im not very healthy:/

deleted_user 02/21/2008

Fat people scare me...cause they are so judgemental of skinny people.

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