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Shut down of 2017

ThetasteofInk
ThetasteofInk

I am entering the stages of shutting down when I see my fiancé. I cry a lot when I'm by myself, mainly because I feel bad for.my daughter. He wants to play that stupid fucking game on his phone and everything else is just a burden. Filling her sippy cup, her asking him to play, doing anything outside that game seems to be too much. He does now the lawn, help with dishes, I know there are worse cases to game addiction but its clear that we are still drifting apart. I have become so unattracted to him because of the way he treats my daughter. Says she's annoying. She's only 2 years old and wants your attention you fucking idiot. I am just growing this unbelievable anger for him lately and the tears have been constant. I dont know if talking to him will do anything but he doesnt like to talk about feelings or anything thats important in my eyes. How do I mentally survive this? I'm so mad I feel like if I try to start talking about this I will explode. He just does not seem to be bothered by this obvious cold distance between us so should I care? Should I already begin to move on with no conversations to be had? He doesn't want to talk, not to me anyways. I dont provide anything to his game, I dont hold any game secrets or precious gems he has been seeking for...so what am I? 

sharaninmd
sharaninmd
Sorry for your what you are struggling with. It is important that you and your fiance are able to communicate with each other. Unless you talk about this with him, it will worsen if you should get married. You can tell him in a nice way that it's okay to play video games for a short time after work, but family time is needed and that your daughter needs to receive more attention than she is getting. If you had to be somewhere and have to leave your daughter with your fiance, you should feel comfortable knowing that he can take of her every need while you are away. That means watching her so she doesn't get hurt, playing with her, feeding her, bathing her and putting her to bed. If he is unable or unwilling to do these things, I believe he doesn't really want to be a parent and take responsibility. Your daughter should come first and if your fiance is unwilling to step up to the plate, it's hard for me to believe he wants to get married. Parenting should be shared and a child should not have to be raised in a home where only one parent is being a parent and they will grow up thinking that they are not loved by the other parent.
OLDBIKER
OLDBIKER
The key to any successful relationship is communication. If he doesn't communicate, how can or, how will things get any better. I'd ask him why he won't talk to you and tell him that your relationship to him is suffering because of his video games. I don't know how old he is but, he seems very immature and selfish with his time. You are correct, a 2 yr. old just wants attention. This is what they do at that age. Again, this shows his immaturity. I agree with others, when you date and/or marry someone with a child, they become part of your family. When you truly love someone, you can love their children because they are a part of you. Take it from someone who knows, I have raised 2 sons that were not mine. Each of this boys came from teenage relationships of their mothers. Neither boy knows who their biological father's are. I am the only dad they have ever known so, I am talking from experience. If he doesn't take more interest, then I would say you have some decisions to make that will benefit both you and your daughter.
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
I don't know if this would work for you or not but when my son plays video games I watch him and we talk while he plays. Any chance this might work for you?

Otherwise I would have to agree that you have to put your daughter first and decide what it best for both her and you,
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