Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

24,601 Members
160,807 Posts
1 Online
Mental Health
/ Depression Support Group

Self medicate with sex?

scelestic
scelestic
I feel like I self medicate with sex because it makes me feel wanted and feel good about myself. This isn't right... right? Even though I am not cheating (anymore or at the moment) I still feel like its bad to have sex because ultimately im only doing it to make myself feel better. Im addicted to the orgasm high. I wish I was still in therapy so I could discuss this but health insurance issues. =(
Cindy264
Cindy264
I am so depressed i turned to sex toys. The orgasm is the only thing that temporarily relieves the pain. Sometimes its so short lasting the good feeling that i cry as soon as its over. I could not find a man for sex cause i am obese and ugly. I found a desperate man at park who will have sex with me. Its good. I dont regret it. It takes care of a want. Its great i dont have to talk to him. I just have sex and leave. He asked me if i had any questions or wanted to talk. I said no. I know if i wasnt this low i would not be doing this. I just want sex. I dont want to answer questions about myself. Im emotionally dead so this arrangement works good.
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
Sex (orgasm) and happiness are mutually EXclusive. Literally two different things. 1 in no way effects the affect of the other except conditionally.

Heroin makes one feel the 'best I have ever felt'. Anyone knows that is not the 'way to go'.

People have been having sex for different reasons for thousands of years. Turns out, the BEST sex is with a partner you love and who loves you.

I advise you to figure out why you don't feel wanted and don't feel good about yourself except only after orgasm.

At that point, you have gained .... tremendously.
whatswrong19
whatswrong19
ok, I think I used to party and drink and have sex with different people I did not know, all that to self medicate, but never just the sex. It was the party , the games, the chase, the catch and then I was done. Nothing more was wanted by me. Now I don't drink hardly ever, not that I'm against it, I have not had sex in years, I really don't know what caused the change, goring from wanting to feel loved and wanted, to wanting to just be left alone. I guess being with someone needier than I was, and I almost never got rid of them, I had to get law enforcement involved to make them go away. Maybe age and medications too.
koolman
koolman
That endorphin high from sex is great but only lasts from stimulation to orgasm! While I like sex too, I've found exercise like cycling produces a longer-lasting endorphin high, and makes me horny as hell for sex!
Cindy264
Cindy264
I exercise it does nothing for me. I can cry the whole time while i do it. But i am told it helps depression. But i still cry during it.
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
I use sex to feel better too. If too much can be an addict. YOu are not alone.
Posts You May Be Interested In
  • GreenEyes727

    Retail Therapy

    Posted by: GreenEyes727
    Last Reply: GreenEyes727
    5
    I got an email from Kohl's that I had a 40% off coupon for today and tomorrow only.  It took me about an hour but I placed an order and got some great deals.  I have been wanting a new dress.  I like dressing up sometimes.  My birthday is coming up and I have dinner plans at a nice restaurant.  But, honestly, I'm a little out of control again.  I went through this in the fall.  I bought...
  • confessionsofaqueen

    Music Heals the Soul

    Posted by: confessionsofaqueen
    Last Reply: confessionsofaqueen
    5
    Has anyone else noticed that clearly speaking and doing things intentionally is liberating because it helps combat the feeling of depression and a sense of hopelessness? Let me share a little more: in my experience, when those who have tried to project a hidden agenda that is obviously not aligned with integrity and well-being, it's best to be firm and speak clearly from self-awareness and...