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If you take the time to read this, thank you in advance, I'll try to keep it short. My daughter is 21. She is in college, and recently moved back in with me over the summer. We have been getting along really good until the last few months. It seems she does not have much respect for my boundaries, like she had alot of stuff she didn't use or want anymore just piled in 2 rooms, and it was driving me crazy, I asked her politely several times to get rid of it, but had to get really mad and threaten to throw things away myself or make her move out before she took me seriously. Then she told me and my parents she would be there on Christmas Eve at a certian time to open gifts, and she was 4 hours late, no she did not have to be 4 hours late, but she chose it, she's dating a guy who has been in jail for past 2 months, just got out like a week ago, I met him once for 5 minutes, and she started trying to demand that I let him come spend the night with her New Years Eve, After she knew I had already gone to bed. Plus I was the on call social worker that night. So I told her we need to sit down and talk about boundaries in my house, and she suddenly tries to say she's been called by her work and has to go in and work until midnight. that was real convenient. now know that when she did these things I flipped out, but I am starting to think she is intentionally doing things to make me flip out, cause she knows I feel guilty later and I'm extra nice. any advice or just plain thoughts, good or bad, nice or negative would really be appreciated. am I getting to upset over small things, or are these legitamit reasons to be upset.
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I'm not trying to sound mean. I am speaking from experience. Yes, I am 16, but I have seen this sort of thing so many times. I hope this helps.
Arianna
But she needs to accept responsibility of being a woman. Having him over in the sense i think you are saying is NOT cool. If she wants to have that kind of relationship with someone, she needs to have her own place.
There's an old saying that the dog you should fear the most is the one NOT barking, not making a lot of noise. that's the one that's sizing up your throat. Sorry that that sounds rough but i think you should sit her down and lay ground rules of your house and with all your might don't let her goad you into a argument that you'll regret later and give in and most of all ENFORCE THEM. she'll resist to see if your serious and you'll probably have some pain in what you think is hurting your daughter but honestly gaining respect. If you don't like him say he cant come over, if he does, tell him that this is your house and he can respect your wishes or leave, even if you need to explain your reasoning's to him that this is a HOME YOUR HOME and the door can be either open or shut by the respect of your rules.
Honestly the odd of her staying with this guy are slim (think of your self at her age, are you still with your first or early relationship. if you are my apologies for my opinion) and she'll come running to mom when she falls.