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I had a discussion or argument with my sister last night that has me a little upset. Apparently, she had a haircut and lost some weight and asked how she looked. I said that I hadn't noticed. She asked how could I not noticed and I responded I don't look at those things. In response, she said I'm either stupid not to see or don't care about people. "No, I just don't care about appearances." I told her about how I hate being treated differently when I'm wearing t-shirt and Dickies (Yesterday, I was carded buying a video game and the person in front of me buying Grand Theft Auto wasn't. I bet my car that I was older.) and when I'm wearing a shirt and tie (Yes, sir; Can I help you, Sir?).
Then, I went off on a tangent. I mentioned how I don't understand all the make-up and clothes women wear.I don't cut that eyeshadow, lipstick, push-ups bras or why all blouses and tops seem to be all V-necks or other attempts to "enhance" appearances. What's with the fakery when it won't be there once the cold cream comes out? I asked how she would feel if when she meet her boyfriend he showed up in an Armani suit and new Mercedes and it was all rented. After all, it seems that women are judged by appearances and men by power and status. Wouldn't he be doing the same thing as with the makeup? She said no.
I can be kind, as in RAOKs, or rather rude and blunt, especially in conversations, be it person or on the phone. I'm still the same person regardless of how I look. In the past, I even had people offer to give me a makeover to "cheer" me up. Ugh!!!!!!!!!!! I need a Slurpee followed by a Pepsi, maybe a 2 liter.
Then, I went off on a tangent. I mentioned how I don't understand all the make-up and clothes women wear.I don't cut that eyeshadow, lipstick, push-ups bras or why all blouses and tops seem to be all V-necks or other attempts to "enhance" appearances. What's with the fakery when it won't be there once the cold cream comes out? I asked how she would feel if when she meet her boyfriend he showed up in an Armani suit and new Mercedes and it was all rented. After all, it seems that women are judged by appearances and men by power and status. Wouldn't he be doing the same thing as with the makeup? She said no.
I can be kind, as in RAOKs, or rather rude and blunt, especially in conversations, be it person or on the phone. I'm still the same person regardless of how I look. In the past, I even had people offer to give me a makeover to "cheer" me up. Ugh!!!!!!!!!!! I need a Slurpee followed by a Pepsi, maybe a 2 liter.
At the same time, i think i do understand a little where you sister may have felt a little frustrated. Her outward appearance is still a part of her whole, and i guess i would hope that people close to me would notice differences. But i do think i would have felt better after your explanation.
I do often wonder why i seem to be different from so many others in this regard (not worrying much about looks). And i also think that if someone is relatively healthy and doing well on the inside, it will probably affect they outward appearance as well. Do you ever feel that you can sometimes just tell by the way someone looks, that maybe they're rather messed up inside? (Trying not to sound too judgmental there.)
People .......
At work they are SO obsessed with what you drive. Anytime someone gets a new car, blah blah blah blah ............ One day somebody said, "Hey stuck up! I waved at you and you never looked at me or waved back!" THAT is because I don't give a rat's ass what people drive, therefore have no idea what they are in, and when I'm driving (safety being the only exception) I IGNORE people. THEN when I got a different truck ......... OMG!!! The interrogation ....... ugh, people ............
I would have said the same thing to my sister. No, I would have lied and said "Oh wow! Nice!" You did the better thing.
what is a slurpee?
I think your Sister got a little too pissy because you didn't answer her question "How could you not notice?" with the answer that SHE had in mind/wanted to hear.
That is a pet peeve of mine. Why ask a question if you are going to get pissy at the answer? Just make the statement instead.
jw Lol