Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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momx3a 08/13/2012

My fiancee and I split up last week because he threaten to physically abuse, not to mention the emotional and mental abuse I have endured by him. All I wanted was for him to leave and now that he is gone I just wanna be in his arms and feel them around me. it doesn't help that I have hurt his son so bad cuz i'm the only mom his son knew. I can't deal with this pain. i have anxiety as well and start having anxiety attacks and I get so scared. I literally have nobody, a few friends that talk to me when they have time, my dad rarely speaks to me, no siblings, my mother is passed..I have nobody... All I can do is sit and cry and be alone on my birthday.

chelle37 08/13/2012

I'm really sorry that things are so hard right now, especially on your birthday. I think it takes a lot of courage to get out an abusive relationship (I've been there too), be proud of yourself for diong that. It makes sense that you're missing him when you feel so alone on your birthday. No one deserves to be abused though, and you made a healthy choice by leaving him. With the guilt about his son, it's not your fault. His dad is to blame on that one, sounds like if he weren't abusive you'd still be with him.

gramybear 08/13/2012

you have us... And a very happy birthday to you. I know it doesn't seem like a very happy birthday, but I want you to know that people here at DS care about you and don't like to see you suffering. I'm sending you lots of hugs for you and for your birth day....
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

justin7680 08/13/2012

Happy birthday and many hugs. You are not alone here.

DeuceBMG 08/13/2012

Well,you're posting here on DS,so you're definitely not alone! I know it was hard for me when I was in an abusive relationship to let them go,but I also realized that I didn't have to put up with the abuse! It's definitely not worth the aggravation to have to deal with a person like that! Please feel free to send an IM or message if you feel the need to talk! Hang in there,you will survive! (Happy Birthday,too!)

deleted_user 08/13/2012

happy birthday

we care =)

turtled 08/14/2012

First of all Happy Birthday~ If it's any consolation look at it this way, at least your not under threat of his abuse. It's terrible to be alone and be going through all of this on what should be a day of celebration. But I'm sure you'll have the strength to make it through this day. (And looking at your post time, maybe the day is already through for you by now--)

We're here for you~

deleted_user 08/14/2012

You are stronger than you think you are. It's never easy walking away from a toxic relationship. But, I know in your heart, you did the right thing. He will never change. You need to keep yourself safe. The abuse you suffered from him was never your fault, he just tricks you to thinking it is, but it's not. You know what? This is a happy birthday for you. You know why? This is a new beginning for you. An abuse free, happy life! I would rather be alone, then with a monster who hurts me on purpose! You deserve better. Please do not let him beg you to go back to him. He will say anything to get you back. Trust me, the abuse will get worse, not better. You should be proud of yourself for leaving, before it was too late.You are not alone.Please write, I want to help, I have been there. Hugs! There is an angel on your shoulder, that's me.

deleted_user 08/14/2012

Happy birthday and peace to your painful heart. I'm so sorry that you have to be on your own, however DS is here and we wish you a great day.

Spoil yourself, reward yourself with a nice funny movie, a super bowl of popcorn and of course a nice chocolate. Play 80's music and dance to it. Give yourself compassion as you are hurting.

You don't need that abusive person in your life. You deserve to be treated with respect and love from someone you call a boyfriend or fiancee. If they don't then they don't need to be in your space.

Peace and light to you (((hugs)))
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