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Froggie83
Froggie83

I already to be done with everything! Summer, husband, 2019, holidays, pain, you name it! 


I didn't sleep last night and this morning my lower back hips, and head hurt... I still had to carry out my mommy duities. My husband never steps up and helps with anything. He grows a nice garden but leaves the harvesting and preserving to me. (Normally I would not mind but stooping to pick beans makes my lower back hurt and my hip ache so bad I can hardly walk ) 


I had to pick beans today while in pain from not sleeping.. and could barely stand up let alone walk... And hubby gets the bright idea to take the kids to the zoo for their summer late night at the zoo fun..  My lower back and hip hurt so much right now I want to scream!!! My head is throbbing and he was mad at me for something and told me to go sleep on the couch... Ugh I want this all to be overtake for letting me vent! 

Scaredandafraid
Scaredandafraid
Does he know the anguish your in? Are you able to communicate with him at all? I would suggest doing it now before he is accustomed to your subservience. My mother has spoiled my father for 40 years and gets upset at the way that he is but fails to see that she allowed him to be that way. I would hate to see you become the same way. You deserve better treatment than that
Froggie83
Froggie83
He invalidates my feelings. I am not supposed to feel pain or show it but if I bring it up to him he just manipulates the situation to make it my fault or tells me I am making it up.
Just another reason why I wanna be done
Scaredandafraid
Scaredandafraid
Honestly... Leave him. Fight for what your obligated to have and go. Marriage is a partnership. It's not one person giving everything while the other does nothing. Why settle for what seems to be convenient? It's not happiness and the longer you allow out to be the more entitled the will feel it is
OlderCPer
OlderCPer
I'm not sure "leave him" is the answer...but maybe have a "real honest" talk with him about the situation. Tell him if he wants to grow a garden fine, but he can pick his own vegetables, the days of sharecroppers are over, you're not the help.

If he want's to take the kids to the zoo, tell him "That's a great idea hun, have a good time, I'm staying home because I don't feel well."

Learn to stand up for yourself and stop taking all his crap. If he doesn't get it, suggest seeing a counselor so you can work out your differences in communication with a professional.

He may try to "manipulate and invalidate" but there's nothing saying you have to let him.....
Kingsolomon66
Kingsolomon66
Could counciling be productive? Would her be reasonable to listen to your problems with there help of a councilor?
Froggie83
Froggie83
King solomon. I wish he would seek out counseling with me, but he was forced by his mom to him to go to one as a kid and now sees them all as jokes. Thinks people who talk to them are all nuts.
Flipper77
Flipper77
Ugh, I understand the whole wanting it to be over thing. I am right there with you. I dream of the day when I have my degree and can find a decent job to support me and my son. I hope freedom comes for both of us ASAP! I’m sorry your in pain on top of the emotional trauma. I know that’s hard. And if your husband is like mine, he acts the worst when you need him the most! I’m sending love your way. Stay strong. This is only temporary.
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