Something I recently heard, and I think applies here:
When you fall deeply in love with yourself, others will follow.

Yes, there are moments when I miss and need that physical thing....and I'm married!!

You are correct in stating that depression causes one to feel not being worthy and not good enough.
I have dealt with depression since 1995. I have good days and not so good days but, I have learned that the source of my feelings is the depression which gives a warped view of reality at times. I know that I have worth and I know that life is precious even though there are some hard times we must face. I don't know your circumstances but, I have been through some very tough times in life and I have been here about 7 yrs. on DS. There are many different triggers to depression. Death of a loved one, a breakup or divorce, financial tragedies, loss of a job, etc. Any of these can trigger depression. What people don't understand, that have never dealt with depression is you just don't "snap out of it". It takes time, work, meds and sometimes counseling to learn to deal with this dreadful state. I am here any time you need someone to talk to or vent to.

@OLDBIKER Thank you! I get that quite a bit actually, "just snap out of it" "you're just in a rut" and my favorite.... "just give it a day" I simply tell them until you've lived with it, please stop. I know they mean well, or at least I hope they do. I think I've handled my depression pretty well. I used to take medication but that only gave me side effects that were worse than the symptoms. Once I became a mom I went into mama bear mode and have been too busy to even look up lol and now that they are older I find myself wondering about me, my feelings, my needs and it's kind of scary! Thanks for letting me vent and I too am here for a chat when and if you need. Have a wonderful week.

@MaryTurk I am searching for me and so I can tell you that it is with love that I do so. I imagine you having this feeling even though married is the same as feeling alone in a room full of people?

You are so right, need_hugs. I am glad to hear of the self-love.
and, you right. we can feel lonely in a full room.

You can vent to may any time you need to. I realize being a mom makes you have a busy life but, don't forget about you. You need some "self time" too.

I know the feeling Ineed_hugs. It can be discouraging watching these scenes as a single, especially when you've been single for awhile. Also, movies and TV shows have a way of portraying love in an untrue light. We were made for relationships and intimacy, your longings are valid. Have you considered staying away from these type of movies to help ease the pain? You're not alone. Keep your head up.

Hello travelgal8605 and thanks for your message. I don't seek them out, I don't want to imagine how much harder it would be lol. It's been a while since I avoid them, but these scenes are practically in every genre, you know? I was just wondering if anyone else has that reaction. Now and then it hits me to wonder why that reaction, it's bothersome I guess because it's a reminder that I'm not in a relationship. I thank you for validating my feelings! I hope your week is going great

You're welcome! They are hard to avoid. I wonder if that's why I like kids movies so much. When you have those reactions are there things you do to steady your heart and encourage yourself to keep hoping? Maybe a phrase or quote? Thanks for taking time to share and ask. This is encouraging me to look at how I respond to and process these moments.

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I had been alone and sexless for quite a few years. Then I got a boyfriend and his demands proved to be too much for me. He was a nag, a control freak, a perfectionist. I couldn't ever relax and be myself. He made me feel like his property and his project! We broke up after six months. Now I'm alone again, but no I don't cry at romantic scenes in movies. We had some good times. But overall, it was stressful and I'm happy to be alone.