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Drake6302
Drake6302

This is discussion between two lovers. I didn't know whether to say anything to you or. Reply: What's wrong ? I know you were gone too long last night to have just been at the grocery store. I know you were drinking again. The bottle in the back of your car confirmed it. Reply: I was wondering if you sensed something last night. Now I know why you asked if I was okay. I'm not going to be judgemental or anything. What you from me is love and compassion. You know I love you so very much. Reply: Yes and I love you too. Okay then please don't hurt me anymore. Now we're both crying. And she says you don't play fair. It was the conversation this morning. Her pain and mine too were oh so real. Still we love each other. Whether my love is enough ??? Only time will tell. Dealing with depression gave me the tools to be who I am now. I like who I am.


billwfriend
billwfriend
drinking ??? you like drinking???
BCat1000
BCat1000
Drinking and depression don't go together. Think about it. Good luck.
Drake6302
Drake6302
No my post is not too clear. It was me that spoke to my girlfriend about her drinking. It nearly cost her everything including her life. So I was a loving , compassionate and tough partner. I will not let her off the hook that easy. Ultimately she decides what it is she wants. Her in recovery can be with me supporting her. Her destroying herself will not be that way with me. And it is her choice always. Life in recovery with me. Or life not in recovery without me.
Drake6302
Drake6302
Sorry for the confusion.
BCat1000
BCat1000
In that case, I think you handled it beautifully. Keep up the good work.
Drake6302
Drake6302
Thanks BC
BCat1000
BCat1000
I think she is close to seeking help. Keep loving her and she will go. The not playing fair is because you approach it with love instead of anger and frustration, Keep it up.
Carolin57
Carolin57
Yes Drinking and depression are not good bedfellows. Your handling of the situation seems pretty good to me.
bridgie101
bridgie101
I don't think you should accuse her of hurting you. I think that's wank. It's not okay.

I'm getting a bad vibe from your writing. I don't like it, and I don't think it will work. People are great apes. We're primates. We're not something out of a Harlequin romance novel and you really have to downplay the melodrama, not up-play it. She needs space from feelings, not more feelings thrown at her.

Get pragmatic, get simple and straight. Carry your own feelings. She can't carry her feelings and your feelings on top. Having had an alcoholic boyfriend myself, I think you really have to join a proper group for people to support their other halves.

Otherwise you can undermine them when you think you're helping.
Drake6302
Drake6302
Bridgie how you perceive my writing is totally up to you. Quite frankly it's of no consequence to me one way or the other. As to her feelings and us as Apes. Yes we aren't very far from them. But still we're far enough along to have what they've never been able to do. With her feelings yes hers are as important as mine. But also her actions and choices happen within a relationship. Letting her know how I feel is simply that. It's my letting her know how I'm affected. She gets to choose whether that is important to her or not. And I get to choose what I am willing to live with or not. If the writing needs improvement then I'll take it under consideration. But mainly I'll stay who I am with no judgement as to whether I'm any better or worse than you or anyone else. But thank you for your direcr and honest input. I really do appreciate and respect it. Your points are well made.
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