Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
My depression is really dragging me down today, of all days. I have to say, it is the worst I've felt for quite some time now. I am not diagnosed for depression but honestly, I don't need a doctor to tell me I'm depressed. I feel like I have no one to talk to, and no one in my family who can relate to this feeling. My husband asked me what's wrong and what is it that makes me depressed. I don't know, and I couldn't tell him, other than the fact it's a whole bunch of things accumulated overtime (being jobless, money problem, family problem etc). I just feel so tired at the moment and I want to just sleep the day away. I know this isn't healthy, and my husband depends on me to keep him moving. He works the night shift, so every day, I prepare his meals, medicine and everything he needs. When he's at work, I have no one can talk to and even when he's home, he's too tired. I tried to tell my mum and my best friend about this feeling, and I don't think they can relate to me because their advice so far was to tell me to just shake off the feeling and focus on other things.
Some of you here responded to my previous issue regarding my anxiety over a job I was applying. Well, I got news yesterday that I didn't make it. Again, this dragged me down further. I wanted to prove to myself and everyone that I am worth something and that I can be independent. At my state right now, I'm not so good with rejection. My husband tried and failed to make me feel better by saying "Well, I see it as a good thing, because your presence keeps me going and you're helping me every day to get ready for my work (meaning if I work, I can't cook for him or get things ready for him)". He depends on me heavily to do everything for him in the background because he is the type of person who can focus on just one thing at a time. I don't mind doing the things I am doing for him now, in fact, I've been nothing but supportive to everything he's been doing. But I feel as though my life and my purpose is to serve him. What about me? When someone ask me a question like, What do you see yourself doing in 10yrs time? What do you want in life?... I seriously don't know. I thought about it a lot, but I just don't know
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Hi All.... It's great to see all of the new people joining the site... I'm loving it!!...smileI'm not sure if people are aware that if you don't have Bipolar Disorder but have a loved one who has the disorder we do have a board for people to go to in order to share their experiences and seek friendship, support or adviseIt's the Friends and Family of Bipolar Board.... I hope you'll take a...
But you can do things for you, that make you happy. Apply for more jobs, find a hobby to focus on, find some volunteer work to do. There are many things to do with ones time. Your a valuable person, your time and talents are valuable....helping others generally tends to make us feel better about ourselves. You becoming more independent with your time will help your husband learn to be more independent for himself.
Take care,
Kat
However, you clearly have lost your identity, and it's just not enough for you to just be his supportive wife.
If the job prospects aren't looking great right now, there are many other things you can do the define yourself.
For one, what are your interests? What have you always wanted to learn? Go forward and do those things. Like knitting, painting, building stuff, yoga, or dancing. Find some things and pursue them!
Second, if you want to broaden your resume, try finding some free online classes or classes from the local community college. Get certified in something, or do it from home.
Volunteer somewhere. Get involved in your church.
Now...ok...so how do you get the motivation to do this? Well...I think you're motivated b/c you've applied for that job. You are ready to take action.
Make these small changes, and opportunities will present itself.
Best of luck to you, and you seem like a very focused and determined woman, who wants to make changes! So that's a head start there!
Sending you light and love!
One of the points that I'll stress is in volunteering. I know so many people who were having difficulty finding jobs so while they were looking they were also busy volunteering. In some cases the places they were volunteering noticed their work ethic, loyalty, etc. that they managed to work themselves into paying positions. A few of the others were finally offered jobs that they had applied for and they feel the thing that made the difference was the experience they gained while volunteering not to mention some excellent references.
The other thing that I strongly agree with is the fact that you should try to find honor in being such a great and supportive wife. It is truly an honorable position although sadly, not recognized as such in these days and times. I do truly feel that your husband was trying to let you know how much he values you and appreciates you the best way he could. Guys just are not good at that sort of thing.
I'll be praying for you and your job search as well as your search for you.
I am still discovering the town we live in (we just moved here last month), with a population of less than 13,000. Jobs are hard to come by and even the senior workers have no plans on quitting. It will seem that I will have to look for jobs further away from home or start something online. I don't know yet. I mentioned volunteering for the community, to my husband. He didn't seem to like it because he wants his time with me, but he said he's not going to stop me from doing what I want to do. When he say it like that, it makes me feel crappy. I know we hardly spend any time together because of his new job. Literally, when he comes home in the morning, he is so tired that he falls asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow. When he wakes up, it's dinner time and straight to work.
I still like the idea of volunteering though, even if it's once a week. Other than meeting new people, it might look good when I try to apply for jobs too. Thanks again for the suggestion :)