Depression Support Group
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I am the scapegoat in my family. they are all comfortable with this. something is changing where i am expected to take on responsibility for someone in the family and it will put me smack dab in the middle of this role again. I am just unable to do it again and if I don't, it will cause tremendous consequences. Someone in my family might even die. Even if I wanted to, I just can't. I feel guilty about it. But why am I always the one who has to break and take all the shit to make everything right? I have suffered horrible abuse at the hands of my father, brother and sister and my mother in her passivity and unwilingness to protect me has been complicit in the abuse. i try to get along, i try to help out but it's like i am just enabling all of them. i know, even if i make this strong stand, none of them will change and if fact I will lose my entire family. It's easy for someone on the outside to say "good riddance to them then" but it really isn't that simple. I guess i should call my therapist again. I hate her. but i don't have anyone else at this point to talk to. it's like i don't get along with anyone. why the hell am I even here? I can't find one healthy relationship in my life.
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I'm feeling down,, and got alot on my mind right now. I got grief going on, on top my depression and anxiety and now I got to worry about somewhere to live since I can't afford living here since my mom passed. So many bad things have happened since my mom passed. One thing after another it seems. Yesterday our fence fell from a storm that hit, had to call someone to prop it up. Thank...
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Just wanted to give a thank you to Mid, Arfie, Malibumark, Greeneyes, Mlro, Girlincalif, and Suncloudjd! You all always have such helpful tips and advice, but I always forget to write on my posts when I see you post, lol. I would lose my head if it wasn't attached to my body, lol. Thank you all so much! I'm starting to use my AI app as a sounding board again. I used to use it as that before...
And is it easy for someone on the outside to say good riddance to family members or watch someone do it....I don't think so. I moved 1250 miles away from my "familly", parents and 4 siblings 21 years ago and said, "good bye". I was the youngest, but I was expected to take care of everyone's problems, fix everyone's messes, provide financial help for everyone when they got in a jam....even though I had my own husband and children and life to take care of, oh and I'm BiPolar, so there was always that challenge while having a Career and raising my family.
My father was a Pedophile and my mother a Pychopathic, mean, abusive woman who offered her children up like meat for a monster....
You don't have to do anything you don't want to do or are able to do. It doesn't matter whether a stranger is asking it of you or 'family" is asking it of you. Its really that simple. You can say No, and if they don't like it, well that's their problem, not yours.
Take care,
Kat
I understand how you feel because one of my sisters was in a similar situation. She’s uncomfortable to say no when no one would take care of her mother-in-law. She has a full-time job and a daughter so she just helps in any way she can.
Thank you for sharing. It’s good that you have a therapist that you can talk to when you need it. Take care of yourself. Feel free to share anytime. God bless.