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Not sure if I should talk to my pastor

Mars1212
Mars1212

My pastor offered for me to call her if I need to. She knows that I am going through a lot of things. I'm reluctant to call, though. I'm not sure why. I think it's because I'm worried that my issues are so intractable, and that it will be too much for her to hear about. I'm also worried that things won't change or get better and she will tell me to pray, or she will pray, and then the situation still won't change and I feel like the praying failed.  I guess I'm afraid of damaging a social relationship by wearing someone out. I've done that before. 

OhCarol
OhCarol
How well do you know your pastor? My feeling is that once my pastor knew what I was going through, she should be checking in with me, not waiting for me to call. Same issue with my parish nurse. My decision was not to call, but to reach out to others: online support groups, friends, neighbors, a nurse hotline that's available through my health insurance, my doctor, a therapist. Not sure if I will return to that church when I feel more stable. Think about your relationship with your pastor, how you feel, then make the best decision for yourself. You deserve it.
Bobby5000
Bobby5000
I am close friends with a pastor, actually another religion but I respect her a lot.
I've helped their church and when my family was struggling, asked her for help.
Patrina
Patrina
Some clergy are required by church rules/canons not to offer up mental health counseling because they are not licensed in it. Instead, they should help with referrals to the right professional, and also give you any support you ask for. They should regularly check in, if you ask. You are one of their flock and this is part of their vocation. This is understood by them. It's up to your clergy to find support for themselves if they need it. This is a normal part of being a member of the clergy.