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hopelauren21
hopelauren21

Hey everybody. I hope you're all doing well. I've been doing well since I got discharged from the psychiatric hospital, I've only been struggling with a handful of things. One of them being, I don't know how to tell my boyfriend that I was having suicidal ideations and that's the reason they admitted me. The symptom is no longer there, but he's a worrier and I just don't want that. If something happens, I don't want his mind to go there and think that I'm going to do it or that I'm thinking about it. I don't want to hide it from him. Any advice would help.

JesseD
JesseD
dont hide it from him, find the courage to tell him just like you've told others. You have inner strength getting rid of that symptom and tell him that you are only stronger now than ever in loving yourself and in your relationships
BCat1000
BCat1000
I agree you need to talk to him. He needs to understand what you are going through. You are currently in treatment and doing well. Don't be afraid to discuss it. There is no shame in it.
Matthew89
Matthew89
I'm with JesseD on this one. You should definitely sit down with your boyfriend and explain to him what's going on and how you've been feeling. I dated someone who also struggled with similar thoughts and I definitely prefered knowing how she was truly feeling. It'd break my heart when she'd hide it. And by telling him how you really feel, he can become a support system for you. I wish you the best.
Elively
Elively
Think it over carefully. There is no rush. Once something is said it can't be unsaid.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
If you think that information will hurt your boyfriend in a major way then I wouldn't tell him at this point in time. Further down the road when both of you are on a more secure footing, then you can tell him because he will take it much better.

Hope this helps

God Bless
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
When a person finds out that someone is suicidal it's usually pretty overwhelming. The most common reactions include feelings of helplessness (because they can't do anything about it), anger, and worry. Ask yourself if you want this weight to be put on your boyfriend's shoulders or if you would rather just move on.
bridgie101
bridgie101
not telling somebody is not the same as hiding. hiding is where you don't tell if asked.

I think if he asks you point blank, tell him. But if he doesn't ask, then you don't have to race out there and educate him. You're allowed privacy in a relationship.

So you don't have a moral obligation to bring him along, blow by blow, with all of the emotional events of your life. Tell him if you think he's going to need to know going forward. Or if you yourself need to express it. But if you don't feel any urge to express it, then don't.

Talk about things that interest you instead.
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