I'm so sorry Angel. Life can be so hard. People can hurt you sometimes without meaning to. Little comments like those used to tear me up to so I know how you feel. When I started feeling better about myself, the comments stopped hurting so much. Do you do activities to build self confidence? I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.

If these men treat you this way, they aren't worth your time in the first place.

ok, so how are you meeting these people? they sound like seriously bad people to me, like someone you should never go out with anyway. they sound like nasty grease on the bottom of your shoe to me. If' that's your picture, you can definitely find someone who will treat you better. are you in a small town, and just talking to guys in town, who the hell talks about other people like that? they really sound like monsters, you should be glad they don't want to date you. ick!

I am a man. I have been one for a VERY long time. I go back to when things were very different .. but even then ... men (generally speaking) had NO CLUE when it came to women. It is even worse now.

Let's start with young men (boys). Their FIRST desire for a female is sexual. They are capable of 'being in love', and many are, but the testosterone is beginning to rage and female = sex, generally speaking. That was true when I was young and even more true now with the sexual revolution behind us.

Way back then, it was an ongoing battle with him trying to coerce her and her saying NO, NO, NO, NO, NO. Talk about getting off to a bad start. SOME convinced her that he truly loved her and she 'gave in'. It went either up hill or down hill from there. Sorry to say it, but mostly down hill.

Now days, it is not any better. It is worse. Young men expect sex from any woman they 'court' ... immediately. LOVE? Most don't even know what that is now. Ask ... and you will get all kinds of answers. The real answer is "when their happiness brings you happiness". Let me know as soon as you get that answer.

I have no wonder that women resent men these days. It has not improved over the years, . it has become worse.

By the way, in my day, if she met him for dinner, he paid for it. The dinosaur that I am says that is how it is NOW .... I would ENTIRELY expect to.

I like sex. I like it as much as I ever did. But now, at my age, it is not the 'big thing' that it was when I was young. Then ... it was the GOAL. Now, it is a benefit from a good relationship. That is what happens when testosterone stabilizes, I guess.

Frankly, if I were a female today, I would not count on anything from a man ... it is probably a bad deal that is made with one. I say PROBABLY ... but the 'good way' DOES happen. It just takes a long time for both parties to recognize a 'good one'.

I don't know if I have been helpful. This has not been very optimistic reply.

I hope romance comes to you and you find happiness.

Hello Angel, I'm sorry these guys have you feeling down. Just remember that just as you wrote, these guys don't know you. They are judging by the cover and they are fools for that. Don't mind what they have to say. You don't need their affirmation. Focus on developing yourself. Read, study, pick up hobbies, develop your God given talents... be the best person you can be. You don't have to try to gain guys' approval. Guys who are only interested in superficial things, are like filthy flies you want to swat away. You don't want to attract guys who see you only as an object to get what they want. You want to meet someone who admire and respect you for who you are. You want to be the most beautiful you (and I'm not talking about physical beauty) and that will attract respectable guys who are worthy of you... You want to be a beautiful garden of flowers that will attract bees and you won't give two cents for those flies. Those flies can go swarm around manure elsewhere else.