DIANE
CALL ME ON CHRISTMAS EVE OR DAY.
U HAVE MY NUMBER.
I M SPENDING THEM ALL ALONE AND WOULD LOVE A PHONE CALL FROM U.....................................
GBU
DRENA B
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Well I don't know if this helps or not, but I have a kid, she's 18 now, and is going to spend all week with the father who hasn't been there for her for shit, he has not paid any child support, he has not helped pay for any of her college needs, He does not even return her phone calls for a year now, but he calls her once, fucking once and all of the sudden she wants to run and spend all this time with someone who does not give a damn if she lives or dies. So I am going to be alone too. My father is dying, My dog recently died, and my life sucks. I'm so mad at my daughter I don't even want to see her right now. I have not told her I'm mad, nor have I expressed it to her in any way, but she spends every fucking minute that we could possibley spend anytime together, with someone else, anyone else. I have done nothing but sacrafice for her and do all I can to make her life good and happy and this is how she repays me??? Having kids isn't all it's cracked up to be, that's all I'm saying.

i have no family that is safe enoughto visit lost oldest brother in 2014 sorry but i missed the funeral and it was bad for me not to go i could not go do to sickness my youngest sister is a mess but she doesnt ask for my help but the family is not there,, and well we are with our dog and i will try to get to some 12 step meetings they are always good for loneliness

Can you speak with your husband and see if perhaps you two could join the inlaws with his brother. My brother came several years with my inlaws and he was always welcome.






Greg's brother who lives nearby and family will be at his in-laws, and my brother will be at his in-laws. To add insult to injury, my husband has informed me that the reason his parents choose to spend Christmas with his sibling out of state is because they have kids and we don't

3 of my cousins contacted me early this morning. They are getting together for Christmas Eve and invited me and my husband. Their dad was my mom's brother. He passed in October, my mom in July. We used to all play together as kids, then life got too busy,,,,, I have a sneaking suspicion that a mutual friend contacted one of them and told them how depressed I am over the holidays. But I am glad for the invite and will be going. I appreciate everyone's concern here. I have not felt this awful in a very long time

Diane, That is so nice, I'm glad you have cousins, and perhaps this will bring you closer together.

Sorry to hear of your sadness.

>> I have already decided to get plastered tonight.

Sorry to hear that too. I don't think it will fix anything.

I am always alone for Christmas .... doesn't bother me at all. I don't drink either.

I wonder what the difference is.

It will be just me...again..why do I say just me? I'm not a just anything.. anyway I will be alone again..naturally..sounds like a song..need to change channels.
Ok..seriously. I will be alone. But I realize that even alone it's still better than some of the times when I wasn't. I will prepare and eat a special meal. I will do a few special things for me. I have books and vids ready. It's become just a day to get through..but I will manage cause I have before.
You have your husband. Why not plan something special for the two of you? Can you take an inexpensive trip? Or have a saturation in a hotel in your town. Make some new fun traditions for the two of you.

That's great Diane. Glad you have family that reached out to you.

I can't help read these comments and I empathize with whatever pain you feel for any reason, especially during the holiday.. But for goodness sake, be grateful that you have a husband or at least just 1 person to spend ANY time with.

I am completely alone at this point in my life. So, try and be grateful for at least having ONE person to be with you. I get so so depressed when i even read that people have family (or even arguments with family). It;s just me and my cat and I feel like everyone I've ever loved is gone.

Some of these comments have upset me. I am going to give it some thought...I may leave. Everyone is entitled to an opinion of course. But I have enough going on. I don't need to be upset when venting and looking for support.

Diane, please don't leave. You are an important member of our community. This is a tough time of the year for a lot of people.

Diane, I know how you feel, because I have had the same experience on DS, which caused me to leave and I was gone for a whole year. Not everybody understands exactly what were going through, but its also the case that not everybody knows exactly what to say, or how to word what were trying to say. Plus, the whole situation of speaking in text instead of voice, that alone causes much for confusion.

Many of us have been trying to help you, and we recognize that this is a very tough season for many, as it is a reminder of what we don't have, or what we have lost. Many of us are struggling to try and think about what we have, or what we have to gain over the next year that follows. I myself struggle with this, for I am not perfect, I simply try to do the best that I can.

For example, what did I do wrong this year? I put myself in 3600 dollars of credit card debt and I am low income. Imagine my scare when the interest started rolling on through. We all have to learn through our experiences, and take each day one step at a time. But you don't have to take these steps alone, and I personally won't allow you to take them alone, I will hold your hand as we take these steps together.

Were going to make it, I promise :)

At least you have your husband. I am a 24 year old spending Christmas with only my Mom. My Dad decided to go alone to Colorado to visit his family there. My Mom isn't that big on Christmas either. (She is Muslim.) I wish I had a relationship for the holidays. We can all just try our best to make a happy holiday with what we have.