I am thinking of you. I hope you can find some joy some time. In the meantime. I hope you can try to find some peace amongst all these stressors. I'm not an expert on this though. And feeling good is hard. Have you looked into mindfulness? I like that. When all else fails I have a little nap - otherwise I completely lose energy. I don't really know how to help, but I am sending a hug through the fabric of the cosmos, if that is possible. Take care. Be kind to yourself.

Have you tried medication for the depression and anxiety? Can you get some help
with the kids? A teenager, another mother? Try journaling you might be able to
figure something out that way.

Hugs. Motherhood is hard enough without the addition of mental health issues. I hope you can see someone that might be able to help you through this.

wow, missanita, I hate to hear that you are having to endure so much pain. I can't imagine having 4 kids and a non-supportive family, and people who just sound like they don't want to do anything to help you out. I hope you can find some real support out there somewhere, just know anyone who is taking care of 4 kids everyday is not a loser, They are AWESOME human beings, the best!

wow, missanita, I hate to hear that you are having to endure so much pain. I can't imagine having 4 kids and a non-supportive family, and people who just sound like they don't want to do anything to help you out. I hope you can find some real support out there somewhere, just know anyone who is taking care of 4 kids everyday is not a loser, They are AWESOME human beings, the best!

My heart goes out to you. I can understand your feelings and just want to let you know that you don't have to accept them (the feelings) of hopelessness. For a long time, my thoughts consumed me and led to "my" downward spiral. It was both a medical and emotional (spiritual) problem for me. You could seek a medical professional for a diagnosis first or vice versa. I don't know what specific order for you, but you might want to consider the medical aspect first. Most important, though, is to know there is hope and it's real. It's there for you, too.

got over a for year long migrain just last year .....it takes so much out of you ........and most people don't understand especualy if they never experanced a migrain befor ...they don't know just how bad they can get .......and they can worrrsen the depreshion .......you realy have to watch your diet .......no caffeen ..no chocolate ...find out if you have food allergies ....you could have them and not know it .......if you do cut those foods out ........I found if I eat cheese to maney days in a row it gives me a migrain ............I hope you can find someone to help out with the children ........I will keep you in my prayers .....

Just hang on a moment Missanta. People always make this error on here. "I have failed" they say, at the age of 30 or whatever. The've barely made it to the start line and they're saying they've failed? Dear me. It's not all over. it's barely begun! You're going through the bad years. The good years come after.

:)

You are going through a bad time. I had my back and neck out when I had children, so badly I could barely bend over to pick things off the floor. My entire family had me down as a drama queen. Lovely people.

For three years I continued until I realised my entire life would be wasted to this thing. I was in pain? sure. Great. But I still wanted a garden, I still needed dishes done and floors swept. I had to change something inside myself and say "okay great, I just get to carry on in this level of pain." I painted the house, I did the lot, in agony. I stopped favouring the pain. I refused to limp, for instance. I would hold my breath, grit my teeth and just bend over. I admit I looked bizarre vacuuming, as I would hold the rod a bit like a croquet mallet..

I did what I could to keep going and I tried to tune out the very loud noise of my back.

And the strange thing is that when I did this? The cure came. There is a good reason to believe in the universe, or karma, or something because when I fully accepted my fate, my fate CHANGED. The lesson it was throwing at me was now learned and it all shifted.

I ended up discovering chiropractic (and I seriously think you need to go for the migraines) and it turned out I had a whiplash injury in my neck causing the migraines, and scoliosis causing the sciatica. With chiropractic care I am able to do anything I like, including heavy digging.

Getting out from under the constant pain was absolutely amazing. I can't tell you how amazing and how much it shifts the point of view.

You need to now start to try everything. Chiropractic, physiotherapy, osteopaths, you name it. migraines are not okay.

xx