I am almost double your age, but I'm willing to take a shot at it if you like.

You can PM me if that works for you.

Gentle hugs

I have no idea how old you are but I am going to be 60 in Nov......man yes young no but helpful? possibly

I am 46.i will try to answer your questions

Why is it that i keep getting rejected. Will i ever be good, what do guys want. I want to give up

There are lots of reasons people reject each other. Sometimes very shallow reasons (looks, socio-economic, etc.). Mostly its about issues the rejector has though. Insecurity, self-sabotage, perfectionism (which doesn't reflect on you, just that they have expectations no one can live up to).

Can you offer up any details?

That's a pretty tough one to answer without ever having the pleasure of meeting you. Are we talking about guys just shutting you down after a first brief conversation? First date? A couple month? First time having sex? Maybe your just attracted to jackasses? Might I suggest you think about the guys you feel rejected you and see if you can find any major commonalities? Then purposely strike up a conversation with someone completely different. I've always been attracted to strong confident beautiful women, but as a teenager I was completely lacking in self confidence, and my father taught me to only ask once, for anything, of anyone. So long story short I finished high school a virgin. Looking back there were some girls that were nice to me, but I never considered them as potential girlfriends because I was so fixated on the "cool" girls. Just one idea, maybe I'll have some better ones as I get to know you better (if you allow it ; ), or I'll just become convinced your surrounded by imbeciles.

Its hard when you see yourself disgusting a d you cant talk to them cuz you'll just get rejected

Ask yourself how much fun you are, or if you're hard work. You come across as very hard work.

If I look at this situation I see you're not contributing anything much, but want a lot back. Right there would be a turnoff for a lot of people.

if you want something you have to invest in it. and you have to be positive about it. If you have made up your mind that you can't talk to them because you'll just get rejected? Then that's your answer. That's why you're not getting the guys.

What do you mean im hard work. Ive been fighting depression lack of love trauma for 20 something years. Now i feel like even more shit. Am i bad person

Unnecessarily harsh. I know the feeling of coming to expect rejection. That's where liquor was nice, made me outgoing and non chalont. It could be your depression though sadly, I can't tell the difference between my wife's bouts of depression and when she's pissed at me for something specific. It just looks like anger to me. It used to drive me crazy trying to figure out what I did to piss her off. Now I just don't really care either way. So to recap, severe depression looks like anger to men, many of us only really understand happy and angry, everything else falls under the umbrella of one or the other.

Im sorry about how your wife has been. I hope you can work it out. Your right, when i get depressed i get snappy although i dont mean to

All you have said so far is you need male advice. We are ready. It's your deal.

What am i doing wrong? I think its my weight but can guys look past that and see im improving. Im shy and i dont kn ow how to come out of my shell.

If you are very shy, self conscious and so sure you will be rejected the guys may not see you but rather look past you. I am much older than you and have been through alot. I am currently just finding courage to begin divorce and start to step back into life again.

Here (on my laptop or my phone) I feel I can open up and be and say exactly what is on my mind. Out there, in the actual real world amongst all the other living souls I am just like you...fearful of being misunderstood or rejected. You mentioned weight... sadly, I am no 25 year old size 6myself .....I do have my hips and curves (they are just not quite placed as strategically or some as generous as I would like. haha)

For you I would say....STOP feeling or wondering what is wrong with you. (We all have things we may want to change.....women especially)

In my opinion, I think you should step back, take a breath and lift your head . Look people in the eye, smile and look forward to what can be out there for you (don't look down or hide your head in fear because you may not be perfect .....hell, NONE of us are) This is a small step to start you in the right direction.

I think you will find people do open up and as they do (men included) you will come to realize they are kind and interested in you and what you have to say (PS The "jerks" who won't give even a response back and go right past you....they are not worth your time or effort)

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. Sadly, this is what others have made you feel, but I am here to tell you what we all need to hear....You are just like the rest of us....you do have wants and needs and dreams and even though you may not be perfect, you are just fine the way you are. If you come to realize just who you are and what you want I think it will be easier for someone to find you.

Ok, so i know i dont eyes elaborate. The male influences in my life or male aka my dad loved me as a kid, when i startee puberty i gained weight. I was ridiculed but also lookee like a boy so everyone looked past me, since then i use makeup, do my hair etc. I dressed horribly so i got teased, i would spend nights crying just at like 14,15. My dad was a drunk, abd was abusive. He would say ur going to end up on welfare, or if u just lost the weight u would be attractive or men would chase u.


I dated but i looked horrible and they ended up being cheaters or abusers . I grew to hate myself. My mom would spend time w .me but fall asleep so i felt like she avoided me.

Ive been raped, a victim of abuse, developed ptsd, victim of incest was taken at knife point etc. I have friends but they hardly talk. I have alot of pain but im healing. I long to be a wife nd mother but feel its impossible. My friends i do talk to say im obsessed, no i just want to be attractive, loved wanted, feel special have sex morning and night. My sex drive is high go figure w how i feel.i want help to open up