I get it. Please talk to me. 716-799-4655. You are worth it.

thank you so much for writing and giving me your number. I don't call people on here. Nothing personal. I just don't do that with anyone.
thanks for saying you get it. just seems pointless to exist with no real joy or desire to go on.

The point to continue on living this life is to be okay with yourself. If you have a roof, be thankful for it. If you have food, that's good. If you are not hurt or in any danger, you're okay. You said you're feeling empty, have you tried therapy? Maybe it'd help if you're considering it.

yes, good advice rosykitten. it's good to be thankful for everything you do have. i do have a therapist but she's kind of cold. it does help a little to talk to someone though. i just don't have many meaningful relationships in my life and i have been through a lot of very bad relationships with people who didn't and don't care about me. the world can feel so cold when you are alone.

Hi Anna! There's something that you can do, and sometimes it will help. Travel. Visit different terrains, go hiking, scuba diving or camping. Discover yourself. There are numerous doors within yourself that you haven't opened yet. Give it a chance. Nature is the most beautiful thing. These things were created for us to experience and learn from it. That should be your mantra. Discover yourself.

Anna, connect with family, friends or groups on zoom. Take some classes online and meet others. Right now it’s difficult to connect because of COVID, but there are ways to connect. Also, just get out. You don’t have to go to crowded places, but drive through a drive through and get a treat, take lunch to the park or place you like. Distract yourself with a hobby like art, sewing, knitting, yoga, baking, beading or watching a good movie. I am alone most of the time and can always find ways to distract myself even if it’s dancing with my dog.

I agree with amydiaz. Anna, take yourself out of your own comfort zone and experience what the world and nature have to offer. I know that with the COVID restrictions, it is difficult to go anywhere but if you have the chance to do it, do some volunteer work for the church or for causes that you find suitable. I have been doing volunteer work as part of my professional requirements, and it is extremely rewarding. I have the opportunities to help vulnerable people in dire straits to improve their lives, which not only gives me the professional satisfaction, but increases my self-worth.

Take a leap of faith and makes new friends. You don't have to pour your heart out to strangers, but enjoy the companionship of like-minded acquaintances.

Might help to make a big move across country or go on a long vacation.

Anna,

What do you expect from your friends? And because friendship is reciprocal, what do you intend to offer to your friends?

Are you able to reciprocate in full with your friends? If not, the friendships (and any relationship really) are not evenly balanced and tend to disintegrate.

Hi Anna,
I’m so sorry to hear that you feel empty. Thank you for reaching out. Continue to share. Online groups like this can help you to feel less lonely and alone.

When I was going through empty nest syndrome, I found comfort after I posted in one of the parents’ groups. I realize that I was not alone. I also have my life group who walks with me on my journey. We pray and encourage one another.

I hope you will find the help you need to stay strong. Connect with your friends and family online. You can also walk outdoors especially with sunlight with your mask on and social distance. Distract yourself by doing things you enjoy. I hope you will feel better soon.

I pray that you will have the peace and strength you need each day. Take care.

Anna,

I can 100% empathize with your statement. I also wonder what the point of life is if you have nothing to look forward to, no joy, no laughter, and no one to spend your time with....

I am also trying to figure out how I am going to deal with this thing called "life". I also fight every day just to not end it all.

I don't have an answer for you, but so far what I have been doing is just finding the small joys in life, whether it's a hot cup of soup, or stopping to appreciate how the snow glitters in the sunshine.

I would be out in nature as much as you can. Have nature be your support system and best friend. Go on nice long walks and take in the fresh air and the views.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this.
So much love and caring has been sent toward you
since your posted this message.

I am sorry you are going through this struggle. I pray you'll feel better.

You have to make there be a point to your existence. Sadly in this life good things do not come easy, it takes hard work to achieve good things. The good news is we have technology nowadays, you can communicate with people in different ways, you can meet people online, etc. The internet is a beautiful thing or at least it can be if you let it be.