well you have been there before (i was bullied as well at school) maybe you could look for similarities to what you were like. school is so so soooo hard, i have the same problem with my sister who is in year nine, i am watching her going through exactly the same thing i did, but i recognise the signs. so i an help her in a way and monitor what she is saying to see if she is in a danger zone.
maybe you should write down what you can remeber your feelings being or look through an old diary from this time and just be on alert.
good luck to you and your daughter.
HUGS !!!!
xox
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Hi milly! Big hugs and welcome back..I missed you! Awe, your baby is going to high school. I was scared for my girls when they started high school too for many reasons (mostly boys LOL) but they did fine and are now in college.

Love you dear. You are a GREAT mother. xxxx

Plague angel, thank you for your reply. You are right when you say that i have been through this and i will recognise the signs. I just have to get into my head that she is the exact opposite of me at her age. Its just so damn hard to get it into my head that she will probably have none of the problems that i had. She has always been bright and popular and i know im being stupid. It just hurts so much sometimes and seeing her off to school this morning brought it all back to me. I hope your sister is ok and am glad she has you to look out for her as at this age i think they are very vunerable. Thanks honeyx

Thanks Jazz honey, i just needed to write this down and im sure she will be fine and hopefully go on to college too. Love and hugs to youx

well it sounds like she is off to a good start, so thats awesome! but of course we worry thats completely natural. and of course you will be worried that she may be similar to you in the depression category, because sometimes it can just happen for no apparent reason and as parents with depression we always worry for our kids, mine are still so young and i worry about it all the time, possibly a bit neurotic i know but hey... LOL
hope things go well for both of you, and thanks for your kind words regarding me and my sis, i really appreciate it.
xox
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It's good to vent to someone besides your family. Get it out sweetie.

I was bullied.Hope your little girl has the confidence I never had.Bet she does,us bullied people are crueller to ourselves than the twatty bullies.Let us know how she gets on xxxx

Thanks hurting and suzy. This means a lot that you guys are here for me. Suzy i will let you know how she gets on. Love you guys and thanks again. x

I was also bullied by a few. I came from a very poor family and wore handmedowns.. I taught my children to love theirselves and have self-esteem, something that I surely did not have growing up. My 19 year old boy is obese (I hate that word) but he is also my teddy bear. He was made fun of in school by a few, but most the kids loved him cause they could see that he liked himself and had a great personality. Just teach her how wonderful she is.. She will do just fine..

i was never bullied but i worried when mil started high school last yr. its so hard cos they have to be all grown up and they only 11 when they go to high school--still babies. millie was fine and loved it so hope urs is ok too x

No doubt about it, high school has its challenges. The bullying I experienced was in junior high, that's the age I think the girls are at their worst. Try to keep in mind that many happy things happen in high school, also - I sure have some great memories that I will use to unseat the bad ones.

yeah me andthebeast!My sister has brought her kids up to love themselves,daily talk,I do it to them too...I love you Ben/Brad,they say I love you more mum auntie Lu,we say I love you this much and they always beat us because they love us the whole world and infinity and six football pitches,and all the planets in the universe.that' the trick,end of viscious circle.We never had that.I really hope she'll kick arse x

Meandthebeast,I also was poor and wore hand me downs. I have found that it made me stronger and more confident in who I am. I am sure your daughter will be fine. Our young people are stronger than we think, they learn early to look out for each other. I know being a Mom of three it is hard that 1st day though. It will be hard college day also. You will be ok sweetie just breath easy.

school is a BITCH. me and my sister were really badly bullied at school.

the main thing you can do is to let your daughter know that she can come to you and tell you anything. let her know of your bullying experiences at school, and give her advice on how to make friends, stay out of trouble etc... but the best thing you can do is to tell her to tell you if she is unhappy at school.

i didnt tell my mom anything about the bullying because i felt she wouldnt understand, and that she would think i was weak and pathetic. in the end, when i did tell her, she said 'everyone has to put up with that, you just got to be strong and ignore them'. what the HELL kind of advice is that??????????? give your kid useful advice, thats MY advice!

also, you can be extra nice if you notice her being unhappy.... im not saying you arent a good mother or anything like that, im just saying this because my little sister went through absolute HELL because at school she was being bullied, AND at home she was being given into trouble for being moody, so there was nowhere she could be happy and loved... make your daughters time at home extra pleasant if you feel she is unhappy at school.

hope that helps. xxxx

Well I wasnt bullied in high school mostly because I didnt stand for it, people did try to start fights with me and that was my biggest issue, but as long as she stands her ground and keeps her friends close she wont have too many problems... Just remember to listen to her when she needs you and try to help her the best you can... I know that its a scary thing for not only your daughter but also you... Just know that shes no longer a little baby, she will do fine as long as you are still there to be that helping hand. Many hugs to you.
Michelle