Maybe while your aunt is not talking to you, you can take som time to notice what it feels like not to have that toxic relationship in your life, and then decide if you still want her in your life or not.

She sounds like a very stressful person and maybe this could be sort of a trial period for you to be able to relax a little.

Sonny, you are exactly right! I am sitting here thinking how nice it is not to hear her complaining. A few years ago, I would take her on her errands. She would start saying stuff before she even got in my car. I love her but even her own daughter has to take breaks from her. Thank you so much Sonny!

You're so welcome!

Just 2 days ago I ended a toxic friendship that lasted 7 years that was similar to your aunt in that all this person did was unload constant negativity and drama onto me. it took me years to realize that the friendship was not reciprocal, and then more time to end the friendship as well as a couple of conversations with my therapist on how to end things in an appropriate and assertive way.

Now that it's done I truly wish I had ended things sooner.

Wishing you peace

some people are totally a piece of work.....and they get toxic towards others....sounds like this is the case here.....

Sonny, good for you! It is important for us to take care of ourselves. Bill, she's toxic for sure.

Yeah, exactly what Bill said. I've had (and probably still have) some friends like this. It can be hard for sure. Glad you are taking breaks and taking care of yourself.

Thanks Mars. A lot has been going on. My brother and I visited her at rehab the last 2 days. When we went 2 days ago, she was in rough shape. When I got home, I texted her kids. The daughter said she would try to go on Monday. We went before she got there. The speech therapist evaluated her while we were there. She was gagging on water. Hadn't eaten in days. Wanted them to use her feeding tube which has been a big sore subject. She was supposed to have it out at the hospital at bedside and said she must go to operating room. So now suddenly she can't eat or drink. So we left yesterday and then her daughter came. Her daughter reported on the group text that my Aunt took sips of water and milk and ate some ice cream and took her pills without a problem. She said she talked to the nurse for 20 minutes and it all comes down to anxiety. She said stuff about the speech therapist's notes that was in congruent with what we witnessed. I felt so foolish. My cousin wouldn't answer my texts. OMG!