Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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whatswrong19 08/03/2020

I'm tired of how she treats me. She and her boyfriend visit my parents 2 houses down from me, but he has NEVER been inside my home. She will text and say she's coming over once every 3 months but never shows up. I'm just done, I know helpful people's knee jerk reaction is to say ,"talk to her". But all that happens then is that she will spend an hour or so visiting ONE TIME, and then it's right back to my not existing in her world. I think the truth is, despite my having done everything I could to ensure she had a happy life, I mean nothing to her, or very very little as she has communicated to me most of her life. So for my own mental health I think it's time to give up on trying to have a relationship with her.

shadowlady 08/03/2020

I'm so sorry Dear. I feel your pain. I'm sorry she treats you this way. Perhaps journaling would help you through this? Write thoughts you might say to her if you could. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.

whatswrong19 08/03/2020

Thank you so much for your reply. Good advice. At the moment I can’t think of anything I want to say to her other than “don’t contact me again “. I’m thinking of blocking her altogether,

Thor2008 08/03/2020

You need to decide how bad is it? Bad enough to not see her or not. That should drive your actions. You know what you will get with her and how you are treated.

Julie111 08/03/2020

I am sorry too, and I also feel your pain. I have basically given up on my daughter as well. It is hard. I love her so much and I know I was a good mom. NOT perfect. But I sacrificed and gave and loved and cared etc etc. I am hoping it is just a stage and eventually she will want to be close again.
It hurts. I am trying to concentrate on myself, for the time being. Instead of giving and giving and giving. Although that isn't easy for me at all.

WanderingVet 08/03/2020

"So for my own mental health I think it's time to give up on trying to have a relationship with her."

sorry to say, but you may be right.

Shiney 08/03/2020

my daughter doesn't speak to me, you need to focus on you, she will come to you at the right time.................................for me, I have realised that I can't make anyone be the way I want them to be, has taken alot of hurt and pain to get to this place, but now I have peace, I know one day I will receive a call when my daughter is ready. hugs

shelda 08/03/2020

There's too much stuff going on with my daughters..i see them only at holidays .It's hard as i know we all had a picture of us being friends or at least seeing each other sometimes but you also have to remember a relationship is a two way street and it is what it is. I just need to figure out what i want and i believe i am getting there,,Next year when i am 65 i can decide how often to work i hope and possibly get a dog,Am not sure but this dog will be only mine. Maybe i will have more to do then just working everyday. I have a goal to be debt free by November and I know i can ..just do not shop ...lol Then i can start to build for my life..its a plan i have to have something to look forward to.Need to fill the voids (hugs)

maria718 08/03/2020

That's so sad. My daughter moved out temporarily for a few months and said she would visit me occasionally. And she did, but I also offered to make her dinner when she came. I'm making dinner for myself, so why not make dinner for her also? Maybe you can make a dinner date with her as a last resort. If that doesn't work, then just go on with your life. You've tried everything else. She's ungrateful and the least you she could do is see her and introduce her boyfriend to you and both of them visit.

whatswrong19 08/11/2020

Thanks for the support, it is really helpful, to feel heard and understood

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