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My 16th Birthday

allthemonsters02
allthemonsters02

I had my 16th birthday yesterday and had a sleepover with my friends, or who I think are my friends.l


None of the people there really spoke to me at all, except of of necessity. The rest of the time they were all talking to one another and when I tried to strike up a conversation or join one I was ignored or brushed aside. And while we were proceeding with lighting and candles and such many if the others were on their phones and half mumbling the "happy birthday" song. 


And to top this off one of my closest friends was unable to make it, which I can understand, but when I asked why she hesitated before saying lsomething about forgetting to ask her mother. Not more than 10 minutes later I could hear her talking about the Halloween party she went to last night. I'm not mad that she had some prior engagement, but I thought that we were closer than that she felt she needed to lie to me. 


To say that all this hurt me is an understatement. I must've spent half the day and my bed crying. The only person I'm angry at is myself for being so desperate to have friends that I invited strangers to what was supposed to be my sweet 16. 

lucillegem
lucillegem
sorry this happened. Learning who is/who isnt your friends is a tough thing... as we never really know. Though someone once told me: if you have one true friend your lucky... super hard to fine a connection, but if you do, your lucky. My advice is dont dig deeper into it.. do something for YOU that makes you happy and dont worry about those people... right now it may seem like their they are the whole world, I felt that way before but they arent. And dont blame your self, its not your fault and you definitely have the right to feel the way you do.. be sad, scream if you have to.. but let it go, dont let it make you bitter. Learn to forgive, especially your self.
there are a lot of people out there who feel lonely too, if that helps... You arent alone.
Relle
Relle
Going to this website at your age is a strong indicator that you know where to find what you need. There's a lot of good advice on here.
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
They said a friend is someone who can think out loud with. I have many friends in school. But only one or two will call me back.
See it as a learning experience. Now you know who will be really there for you. A true friend is hard to find. Keep making friends and keep looking for your true friend.
NullFantasma
NullFantasma
I don't feel like any of these responses are what you need right now.

You have to stay strong in times like these.

Maybe they're right. Maybe these people don't care. They sound awful, and you certainly deserve better than them. They're toxic, they're indirectly hurting you and that's not okay. You should tell them.

If anything comes up, you should leave them. Find other people to talk to. Easier said than done, but these people won't do you anything good. Find something better than them. Talk to the friend that went to the other party instead. Maybe she had a reason for lying to you, and tell her that you just want her to be honest with you. Work things out. You don't have to give up.
Tired
Tired
Try joining a group of some sort or volunteer for something
you care about. Maybe you can make some better friends
there.
Andrea16
Andrea16
Just wanted to say I can empathize with you. My 16-year-old daughter has a lot of the same feelings you are having. I hope you have support from your family. I know how hard it can be. I try to help my daughter to understand that she has her family always even when "friends" come and go.
AriannaJasmineRose
AriannaJasmineRose
I totally get it. I turned 16 last March and I actually didn't throw a party. I've had friends lie to me in the past due to previous things they had planned and it really does hurt.
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