Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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LouieSax 04/27/2018

i really struggle leaving the house. Usually if I feel obligated to leave the house I manage it, but it’s honestly like I have to drag myself to leave the home and not to return home and I absolutely hate socialising. I often flake on my plans and stay at home. I’m not anxious about going out and socialising, quite the opposite, I’m usually quite good in social situations. It’s just motivating myself to leave the house and get ready is so difficult. It often feels like I have heavy weights attached to my feet, it’s so difficult. There are days when I would honestly rather claw my eyes out than leave the house. Any advice?

radarblip 04/27/2018

I am in the same boat, it suck... I need motivation

bornconfused 04/27/2018

i hear ya, I struggle with the same thing... sometimes I dont get out of bed :(

LouieSax 04/27/2018

I find it really difficult because often I get really sad about how I’m missing out on my 20s and how I don’t really have any positive memories, because I don’t leave the house. And often when I meet someone new I feel like I am really boring because I have nothing really to talk about because I don’t go out

4everyoung1 04/27/2018

LouieSax, thank you for sharing. Unfortunately, I understand. It's 11:30 - I need to be somewhere at 1:00 and just want to stay home. I feel "stuck". I work three days a week and get up at 6:30 , get dressed, function fine at my job but..... on my days off when no one is at the house with me , I'm just not wanting to get up and do things. I haven't always been like this and I don't know if it's depression/ anxiety/ ??? I was just looking up names of books that I could read on getting "unstuck" !! I guess we just have to PUSH through , get up and get going. Sounds so easy but really isn't when you have these feelings. I'll keep good thoughts for you. Stay strong and know that you're not alone !! :)

Solus 04/27/2018

Try not thinking of the whole process involved. You can plan getting ready well in advance of having to leave. Even the night before. Do it in small steps so it doesn't feel like a huge effort. E.g. 11.30 shower and dress, then coffee relax. 12.30 pack bag, 1pm I'm putting my shoes on.... I try to adopt this small steps approach with many tasks. Stops that "having a mountain to climb" feeling.

LouieSax 04/27/2018

That’s a really good tip thank you.

Heidiclark 04/27/2018

I used to have to talk my way through going to the bathroom so you can just imagine how hard everything else was and still is for me. I like the last posters advice and I will also add to praise yourself every step you take. It may seem silly bot for some of us it's like moving a mountain to do simple things so we need that credit. Hugs

jel 05/14/2018

Hello,

Definitely sounds like signs of depression and possibly oppression (when it begins to affect you physically or mentally to a point where you can't work yourself to do something you feel you want to do or should do). Have you spoken to someone that is trained to help (psychologist, pastor, priest, counselor, etc.) or even before that a close friend or family member that will list and not be judgmental? Also, as Solus mentioned, taking steps, even small ones moving in the direction you want (i.e. to leave the house for a reason or simply to experience fresh air and nature) will help you overcome the anxiety that may be pressing on you and keeping you in this "trapped" feeling. I'll say a prayer too, as it can help knowing someone is thinking about us and interceding for us (and understands), as I'm going through something similar (but concerning getting through doing certains tasks that I am able to do, want to do, but just seem to have to force myself to do).

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